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writes:Why can't he look me in the eye, he might sometimes but when our gazes meet he looks away or starts walking and talking instead...we had some ups and downs in our knowing eachother, and i think this guy is an attention hound when it comes to the ladies.., my first year of knowing him he once told me he cared, loved me, wanted to get close to me..know my sould...but when he kept seeking other womens attentions it pissed me off anyway about his over all character...yadda yadda ,plus he's married,I know will never leave his wife... I got HR involved...that was over a year ago now and I think a slow mense has been made, we are civil most days unless he plays the avoidance game..only to approach me with a hello days later or help on a job....ANYHOO....but NOW I noticed that he can't look me in the eye, it's like he'll look around, but then when he does look at me in the eyes...he will break the gaze and start walking and talking to me instead or look around or down, he might "try" again then when I look at his eyes he pauses and takes off...this seems to be the pattern....what is THAT about? Any ideas??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 December 2010):
 I expect HR put the fear of losing his job on him. Look, it sounds as though you had a very troubled and unhealthy relationship with this married man. My suggestion to you is to take your focus off him and put it on your work.
It doesn't matter what's going on in his head, you are engaging in idle speculation that ultimately will not matter to you in the long term.
Maybe he's thinking, "she's got an enormous piece of broccoli stuck in her teeth" or maybe he's plotting ways to disrupt your karma or possibly he's trying to work out the last time he rotated the tires on his car.
He's married, you sicced HR on him, you don't have to interact other than at work, let it rest.
You aren't engaging in obsessive thinking about this, are you? Do you think you might have an issue with uncontrollable thoughts or urges? What did HR counsel you to do? I would turn the focus from him and turn it on yourself, for a change. Perhaps some meditation training will help you control your thoughts.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 December 2010):
 So, you got him in trouble with HR and you still have contact with each other? Not a good plan.
He looks away because he's uncomfortable. I would be too if I needed to talk to someone who might cost me my job if I'm not careful. He may not want you to interpret any prolonged eye contact as interest, so he looks away. It's hard to say.
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