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writes:My last boyfriend of 6 years never came during a blowjob. now my new boyfriend hasnt either Am i doing it wrong?? im really hurt hes stuck with a rubbish girlfriend!! are some men unable to come during a blowjob....why!!!!!
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reader, SallyR87  +, writes (14 July 2010):
 Perfectly normal! Please don't be so hard on yourself. My last 2 boyfriends (current and previous) never came/cum from anything other than intercourse. My first one however was so "blowjob sensitive" that he'd shoot within a couple of minutes if I gave him some mouth romance. My b/f says blowjobs feel great but never take him over the edge.Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): I am the opposite...I take forver with intercourse, but come in minutes or seconds with a BJ. Two reasons: first, I usually have to tense my legs to come, and I can't do this kneeling (doggie) or positions other than cowgirl or maybe missionary. Second, I agree with Timm that hands have to be involved. It's the jerking into her mouth thing that drives me over the edge. Something so insanely erotic and fulfilling about a woman who swallows.
Another big thing is its mental. If a guy cant visualize something hot about a BJ, he wont climax from it. Most guys visualize a womans vagina as sexy, since it is her most private of parts, whereas a mouth everyone sees. So for some guys its visual. If you can make your mouth "sexy" he may get off easier. By sexy, I mean doing nasty things with your tongue. I really love it when women smack it on their tongue, cheeks or lips while they're giving me a BJ.
But it's NOT you honey...not unless you do nothing but lazy up and down with no hands.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): Hi,
Many guys are taught not to cum in their g/f mouth unless she agrees to it..perhaps you should tell him its ok?
I agree with many of the posts...but some mates of mine tell me that they have finished "early" lol..
Dont blame yrself..just be thankful that it wasnt over too early!!
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (13 July 2010):
 Meh, I've never "finished" from a bj and that's not at all from having rubbish girlfriends...
Maybe TimmD is right and I'm just lazy, lol
Don't take it personally.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 Here is the biggest secret out there for any oral sex (both male and female):
IT TAKES TWO.
Guys tend to be lazy. They expect it to be like a porno where the guy just lays there and the girl does what she does. That is FAR from real. Each guy is different in what feels good to him, and each girl is different in their technique. The truth is, guys have to be vocal. They need to tell the girl what feels good and what doesn't. Then, the girl needs to listen and adjust. It's a long process that only comes with experience of each other. And once a new relationship starts, the entire process starts over again. Odds are, these guys are just expecting you to be "good" when in fact, they are the one's who aren't helping you out.
Do not blame yourself.
PS: Another big secret when it comes to bj's specifically - use your hands. Girls for some reason think that it is cheating or not the same if they use their hands instead of just their mouth, but in fact hands are essential to a good bj.
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reader, daletom +, writes (13 July 2010):
I'm a guy who finds it very difficult to climax from a blowjob. Gentle caresses around my inner thighs sometimes helps get me almost there, then trigger it with finger stimulation on the backside of the scrotum, across the perineum, around the anus and then the tip just barely through the sphincter.
If a penis-in-vagina completion is out of the question, I'll ask my partner to lay slightly on her side so I can finish by pressing against her naked hip and thigh.
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reader, andre23 +, writes (13 July 2010):
Tough question, there is no way to know how you are doing it. This is one of those things you need lots and lots of practice to show improvement. Make sure to get your partners feedback during the BJ.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (13 July 2010):
 A lot of men don't come 'only' from a BJ without some help from your (or their own) hands or a little vaginal intercourse. It really does NOT mean they aren't enjoying it! Every so often when I take a guy's penis in my hand to finish him off, I have him tell me not to do that, since he doesn't want to finish just yet :) This is generally followed by me telling him I refuse to be deprived of his cum any longer, but the point I'm trying to make here is that making a guy cum only from a BJ is not very common, so you shouldn't expect it or think there is anything wrong with you if it doesn't happen.
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reader, metalsman +, writes (13 July 2010):
 Yes, I can vouch for CaringGuy's comments there..don't go blaming yourself, it really isn't anything you're doing wrong i'll guess..you know sometimes it's too much of an intense sensation and then works against the guy..so i'm told!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 July 2010):
Wow. You're taking a lot of blame. It's actually not as easy as it seems for a man to come in a woman's mouth. Some women have complained that their boyfriends take half an hour or even more to come from a BJ. You're right. Some men don't come during a BJ. Don't take it personally. You can be sure they're having a great time.
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