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writes:OK me and my ex split up 2 weeks ago this sat. He knew if i ever seen him with this one girl it was gonna kill me. So smacked right in my face are pics of him and her in a bar together. They have been hangin out a lot more now. I had to go get a item from him yesterday cause i told him i needed it and he said " so your going somewhere this wknd" I said yes i just dunno where yet then 3hrs later i ran into him again and he said oh i see ur gassing up for ur big trip huh? i said yea if thats what u wanna call it. I love this man so much and he is really doing everything he can to push me further away. I have accepted the break up for what it is but i do love him alot and would love to have him back in my life. He told me he just wants to be friends right now. All my friends say they think we will get back together but really in the end i dont think so....im giving him his space from now on.... my question is why in the world do guys do this? Already hanging out with other girls so soon!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): i know exactly how you feel. me and my ex have been on and off for five years. and everytime we break up, he has a new girl with in the month. ive learned that dwelling on everything, from why you werent good enough to him being a jerk will not help. it will hurt but if he has a new girl by now than maybe he was just another player in the game. no matter what your strong and showing him that its not affecting you will help. Find someone to just talk to. llike face to face. saying this hurts and i just need to hang out and realy on my friends to show myself that hey i can have fun with out u. im not saying you have to be completly over in a day or even a couple of months, but whats done is done, and he lost his chance.
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reader, SweetindianGirl +, writes (7 October 2010):
going through the same bs! dont pay him mind, if you want the guy for the long run, you have to let him PLAY right now. NO CONTACT tell him, when he feels he can continue wher eyoug uys left off to give you a CALL. make it seem like you are waiting for him, tiill then do your thing! if you dont let him do his thing right now and he comes to you you will lose him quicker, if he plays and regrets it chances are you will outshine everyone and he will be wiht you longer :)
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reader, dirtball +, writes (7 October 2010):
 Do your best to move on. Whatever the reasoning behind your break up, it is unlikely to change. Do your best to cut him out of your life. Aunt Honesty is right that people deal with things differently, and this may be a rebound or just going out with a friend. It may be that he's had a crush on this girl for a while and is now pursuing her because he realized that's who he really wants to be with. My point is that there are so many reasons why he could be hanging out with her that you can't really know the truth as he's the only one who knows those reasons.
Move on. Dwelling on the past will only bring you more pain.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 October 2010):
 Well first off try not to listen to your friends as am sure they mean well but they will probably just give you false hope and you dont need that right now all you need is your friends there to listen to you and support you. Ok so this guy started hanging around with this other girl, but it may have been completely innocent, but justr emember people deal with break ups differently and some people go straight after a new partner its rebound. You dont really say why you broke up but just give him space for now and let him contact you, any stuff he has of yours then go and collect it all so there are no more ties between you and just put space between the both of you until you get over the break up as keeping in contact with him will only prolong the pain.
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