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writes:my bloke keeps emailing and texting a woman he works with, I understand that they have to work together, but should each line end with XX?Its getting me really annoyed now, as I've asked him to stop doing it but he still carries on.If I was to text one of my work mates and put xx on the end I'm sure they'd think I'd gone mad.Why does he do it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou all so much.
I have asked him to stop and we've argued about it as he doesn't see any harm in it! Thing that annoys me though is that I do know her and I really don't like her, he knows this too. So it feels like a bit of a piss take that he does it.
I'm sure that they're not having an affair, but I can't get my head round the fact that they send kisses to each other. If I send him a text, just something simple like "Morning" He'll say "where's my kiss" so it obviously does mean something to him. But he tells me it means nothing between them, but just something they do.
My head is totally spinning about this as he refuses to even try to see it from my point of view.
We're going to fall out about this, and I don't want, but I can't just ignore it or let it drop.
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reader, ellie1963 +, writes (15 February 2011):
 sometimes people do it to soften an email, but in this case i would be cross too.
All you can do is insist that he stops it and put it to him how would he feel if you were doing it?
Is it just one person he sends it to or everyone he works with.
Are you close enough to the work colleague to tell her you dont like it and can she ask him to stop! she may be feeling uncomfotable with it too. Does she know he has a partner?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): This isn't right and I would be concerned if my partner did this. You may find that they are good friends where nothing more would ever happen - kinda like a bro/sis realtionship, however you have told him that you don't like it and I assume he hasn't explained himself fully which is why you are not happy. I would suggest that you play it casual, otherwise he could get defensive and accuse you of being 'crazy' as men tend to do to turn shift the blame. First try casually suggesting that you all meet for a drink together with perhaps a group of you. If he has nothing to hide, then he should agree. If you act jealous, he may think you may cause a scene or make it uncomfortable, so try the meeting up for a social event first and then you will be able to work out whether it's something to be concerned about or whether there is no threat to your relationship. sometimes seeing the other person (as I take it you haven't yet??) can help you work out whether there is anything.any potential for something to happen with them. does he do it to any other of his female friends?? Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): HI
I have been having an affair with a co worker for two years and he puts XX at the ned of his texts emails to me. I am sorry but it sounds like he may be having an affair with the co worker. If you have asked him to stop and he hasnt doesnt look good. Why don't you get the number off the mobile and ask her directly. Thats what my MM wife did.
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