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writes: This week i was purchasing a jewelery item with part of an inheritance as I thought that would be a nice way to remember them every time I looked at my hand.. . I recognised the salesman and recalled how very charming he always is, when I have seen him in the past serving other customers. Though he has never served me before, two times before I have seen him in action with other female customers and he could charm the fruit off of a tree.Now first of all I will point out that i am immune to his charms (happily married)but wow I was in the eye of the storm as far as charm offensive. And I found it fascinating to experience it, and tried to work out how he did it.He was about mid 30s, while I could almost be his mother. And very good-looking which will do him no harm in life. He complimented me on my skin. When I felt a little bit embarrassed by all his attention I admonished him a little when said I was old enough to be his mother, he said 'oh no, my mother is.. Years' my reply was that my age is only 3 years different to his mother. That's when i got the long look into my eyes with more of his lovely remarks.Now i am old enough to know that he obviously just loves women, and possibly is never without company.Generally I have a negative view of players, but he was certainly enjoyable company. I did not ask him personal questions, so I can't say much about him.And making sales would be his priority. And that's fine with me. I understand that.He knew that I had purchased from that store before, just not from him before.And he did give me really good value for money. Though i spent more than i intended. So i would call him an incredibly good salesman.He asked and discovered various details about me, my grandsons etc. And he came across so sincere that I would not be surprised if he remembered it all next time I visit that store.Then after I had finalised my purchase and even though he knew I would not be buying more that day - then he insisted i look at and try on some things he wanted me to see. As he thought they could suit my taste. To think about for the future. Fastened them on me. Made more lovely comments to me.It was feeling so good one could almost forget there is a world outside.I usually feel this good after half a day at a spa.How do some men manage a really really good charm offensive so beautifully, and do everything right to make one feel great? While if another man tries it it is thought of as sleazy, and often is sleazyAnd some men have no idea at all on how to make a woman feel super good.If this mid 30s guy wanted to be so, I suspect would be outstanding as a seductive player. He sure made me feel good. As close as verbal seduction as I have ever seen. How do men get to be this effectively good at being seductive, but without any action that went too far? It was not sleazy. It was kind, caring, gentle. Every action had an explainable reason. And in no way was he anything but utterly professional, but in an almost European male way of indicating absolute devotion to the needs of his female client (lucky me).Even at the start he insisted I sit to look at the items. He made sure I was comfortable. He came across as if I was his first and only priority, and yes it left me feeling so good.I can imagine he would effortlessly seduce any woman very successfully if that was what he wanted. And i can imagine he has many female friends who adore him.Later he pressed his card into my hand, looking into my eyes as he did it. With 'if i can help you in anyway I want you to call me' and wrote an additional personal cell phone number on the back.Will I ring? Of course not. I can visit the store if i want anything.Would I seek him out again to serve me? Yes, in the blink of an eye. Will i suggest my recently widowed friend visit his store, if she wants any new jewelery? Yes, I would want her to experience same as me.
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reader, Kilcardy  +, writes (13 March 2011):
I think the difference between a "player" and a guy who is genuinely charming is the sincerity aspect. You can spot a player a mile away. But, the sincere, caring, knows just what to say type is a different breed altogether. Mixed into the concern is an underlying tone of respect that no player ever exudes. Women who have a clue pick up on that and can certainly tell the difference between a charming fellow and "player." Unfortunately, a lot of women can't discern the difference between the two and end up being "played".
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): Oh, please! He's a salesman. He's using every trick in the book to sell to you. Of course he gave you the lingering looks and the charm slick - and for exactly the same reason he gave you his number with the old chestnut "if there's anything I can do for you" - he wants to part you from your money!
You "seem" to see straight through him, but it obviously had a powerful effect. Try making three more visits to his counter, BUT DON'T BUY ANYTHING. Just watch the veneer of charm crack.
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