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writes:Why is it ok for a 50 yo man to date a 30 yo woman, being 20 years apart? but yet a 21 yo man can not date a 16 yo girl, when that is only five years. Or even a 18 yo man and 16 yo girl. If they got caught the guy would go to jail...Why is that? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2008): Because some laws are well meaning, but like all laws they cannot cover every situation.
So it's designed to stop one sided relationships where the elder has power over the younger.
It doesn't always go like that. Sometimes two people can just click when there shouldn't be any reason to and a person's intentions are exactly as they seem.
But not always.
That's why.
Personally, I think 16 is plenty old enough. 100 years ago 16 was the age at which you were expected to have begun producing children. Probably, because life expectancy was not nearly as long as it is now and people had less time to focus on doing that sort of thing.
Or because more was expected of us emotionally by that stage because of harshness of the general world at that point.
But the world has changed. We live longer. It is easier for predators to do what they do best... prey on the naive and weak-willed.
But our emotions never changed. Emotionally we are still the same as we have always been and always will be.
I can't decide if thats good or bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): Because they are underage! There has to be a line drawn somewhere! Take that 18 yr old guy and 16 year old girl...in two years that would be fine! It really doesn't make sense logiocally...but it does morally. as we get older, we are more developmentally able to handle relationships. and that's why the age gap doesn't matter later on in life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): In the UK it's legal to date anyone at 16, but you still get a few funny looks. I was 25 when I met my girlfriend who was 16, we are still together 2 and a half years later and very happy. Age diffrence is not important, how people feel about each other is more important than other people's narrow minded views.
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reader, vamp-gal  +, writes (14 November 2008):
 Hmm, I think it's because there's a law about dating teenage girls aged 16 if you are a few years older. I'm not exactly sure, but I have a feeling it's frowned upon because, people probably think, that aged 16 is too young to date anyone older (unless it's like a year) and 18, you're legal, basically an adult, you're allowed to vote and everything! I think this is why, because 16 is too young, and probably think they're too young to make proper decisions without peer pressure or anything like that getting in the way.Anyway, I hope this helps.
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reader, easternkygirl +, writes (14 November 2008):
Because when your 16, you are still a child and aren't mature enough to realize what the consequences of your actions are. When your 50 dating a 30 year old, you're both grown adults and a whole lot smarter than you were when you were 16. At 16 you do things in the heat of the moment and then later regret it. Hope this helps:-)
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