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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Coworkers are making us an item and it makes me angry! I've been working at a cafe for two months. My guy coworker (coworker #1) has been there longer. At first he seemed nice so we chatted at work as friends but he became more and more annoying. He's two years younger than me but still quite immature for his age. Anything he says and does annoys me! Our cafe is extremely busy so as a cashier, I'm very quick. But sometimes he stands next to me or walks by and tells me to hurry up. My manager is fine with my speed as are my other coworkers. Sometimes someone switches with me to give me a break. And coworker #1 sighs and shakes his head pretending it's because I'm incapable. He belittles me all the time, calling me a little girl even though I'm older. One time he asked my weight which and I told him since I don't mind and I'm healthy. He exclaimed "oh my god!" and told everyone. That's basically his way of hitting on me which is annoying and disrespectful. He loves texting me which I've learned to ignore. Now that I've been here longer I know to tell him when he bothers me. Next time he does something I think I'll be direct and say "Don't you think you're being rude?"Anyway we had a monthly dinner yesterday. I was trying to avoid sitting next to him but somehow we ended up sitting next to one another. I didn't want to talk to him but he kept talking to me. I couldn't really avoid him because they were genuine questions such as "what do you like to do during your freetime?" etc. Later (female) coworker #2 said to coworker #1 that "we all know so you should just make a move now." The entire table cheered him on and I was so annoyed! I put on an annoyed face for everyone and told coworker #3 who was also cheering to be quiet since he knows (he asked and I told) that I'm uninterested in coworker #1. How can I make it very clear to coworker #1 that I'm uninterested and how should I respond to my other coworkers next time? If it were a decent coworker then I wouldn't mind but it's someone that none of us prefer. So I'm especially upset at coworker #2 who I know would date a rock before dating coworker #1. As my mom said, a good girlfriend/girl/person would not encourage him to pursue me because he is simply NOT boyfriend/person material... It's just entertainment for everyone. I'm insulted!
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (10 July 2012):
 Co-workers sometimes have a way of meddling where they should not meddle. I would simply look your guy co-worker straight in the eye and say, "I do not want any trouble between us as I like my job and want to keep it, but if you continue to be rude to me and ask me probing questions, I will report your actions to the manager. I come here to work, not flirt or be harrassed." I think this should take care of it as he will then report to all the others what you have said. I would then go ahead and tell your manager (unless he/she is in on this) what happened and what you said. Repeat that you do not want any trouble and would just like to come to work and do your job. I am sorry you are in this position as it happens to the best of us, but you absolutely must stand up for yourself here. It is similar to a bullying situation, so you must stand up for yourself and get serious. Otherwise, everyone will remain up to their old tricks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2012): Hi everyone. This is the original poster and I wanted to say that the title/question is wrong. My question is - What should I do to stop all of this? And make coworker #1 back off? Thanks.
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