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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Split up w boyfriend still love him but think he is a commitment phobic or just plain too emotional and afraid since he was hurt. I have dated other guys who I have liked and have explained that I am not ready for a realtionship yet but they just keep on pushing and pushing me. I really like some of them but i just need more time. Why can't they understand that and stop being so pushy one wants to get married..told him I just need time to myself to be strong again. I don't want to be mean but I have been and now I just feel like staying in my house by myself. Why can't these men just listen. Why are they pushing me when I am not ready. I took till I am blue in the face. I am just not ready to open up my heart right now or sleep with them. It will take me more time to get over my ex.
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reader, rocknroll +, writes (8 June 2009):
Men want a woman in there life. Those that don't, are going through the same thing you are.
The fear of us humans, is that you see something you like, and if you give that person space, someone else might take them for their own. Men have an easier time being alone, because women are not the chasers. Maybe one more generation and men look out, women will hunt you down for marriage. :)
I can't offer you anymore then you have done. But I just thought of something. How about a business card size that tells them what you want: friendship, and that anything more, any push requires them to buy you an expensive gift, and then have them sign it. There will be a word or phrase you can say to signal them they are getting to close. I'm sure something along this line will wake them up and heed your call for distance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): u said ur own answer
your not ready to date anyone right now
focus on yourself :)
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