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26-29,
*dhocracy
writes:Why do many women beleive that men being jealous or protective is unhealthy? Why do many women seem to take sides with a woman even if she is a bitch or has wronged a man? It is realy starting to piss me off that men are veiwed as assholes all the time and women can do no wrong. Ever since woman got rights men suddenly are assholes? No I'm not saying goving women rights is a bad thing, it's good for us to become an equal society but men are often depicted as bad. WHY??? I know i am a nice guy so don't tell me I am a shovanis or what not because i reckon i will get a bit cranky over that yeah? =|
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reader, Not My Name +, writes (7 January 2010):
 I think there is healthy jealousy and protectiveness that is actually kinda sweet and displays a partners care and devotion to you - but it when it becomes controlling or provokes anger then it becomes unhealthy and unacceptable.
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reader, Adhocracy +, writes (7 January 2010):
Adhocracy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes. Well I was having a moment after reading some stories and watching some vids that usualy depict a guy being a fuck head and cheating on someone, so i think that it has said a hell of a lot more than done.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 January 2010):
A small amount of jealousy, and a small amount of protectiveness can suddenly turn into aggression, terror and the ultimate nightmare. And it works both ways. Women can be just as bad. I had a jealous girlfriend, and would you believe it she went onto to cheat with her ex. The point being, if you're jealous or too overprotective, there are other issues elsewhere. As for women taking another women's side. That also works both ways.
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reader, lucy.whittaker +, writes (7 January 2010):
 It depends on the extent of jealousy or protectiveness. For example, a man who wants to look after the woman he loves, to protect her from being hurt is the way it should be. A man who wants to control, or tries to control the actions of the woman and disguises control as protection is the kind of man women have a problem with. Many people I know have had problems with overprotective men, I have been put in that position before, where my ex became extremely paranoid and suspicious of me because I was spending time with a male friend. Suffice to say the relationship ended soon enough. I understand it must be frustrating being labeled like this, but if you personally are a nice guy then you won't be considered so. Women stick together, and yes, we sometimes label men as 'assholes'. That's because many of them are. Don't think that women don't get labeled as well: slut, whore, bitch, cow. There are hundreds of labels applied to women, but what you do about it is not conform to those labels. If you stand apart from the bad characters then you won't be put under the same umbrella. I don't think you're a chauvinist (that being the word I think you were intending to use), but a lot of men are. If you have a problem for me believing that there are a lot of bad characters out there, then fine, but realistically that's what makes finding a 'good egg' so special. You can bitch all you like, but women will always support each other. I also believe that it's a trait of friendship. Because I would support any male friend who was being treated badly. The unfortunate thing is, most of the time, it is the woman suffering bad treatment.Lucy
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