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writes: I know this has been asked a million times, but why are big breasts better? Honestly give me the reasons of why they're superior to small breasts when it comes to SEXUAL PLEASURE. Nothing to do with not having back aches, or that big breasts produce more milk or indicate more fertility (FYI: they don't!).I mean, look at this:http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice/dating6.htmlThe way they talk about small breasts is derogatory to say the least. And in that same website they have an article on how to convince a girlfriend to get implants! And that's a website for guys which claims to help, educate (????) and entertain.I rarely see a big chested girl get insecure over her breast size, or doubt that it attracts guys. However, I've seen many women with small breasts who are insecure about it and wonder if they're really are attractive because of men's obvious fascination with big. But why is big better? Breasts are just made of fat, just like a belly, yet bellies are expected to be small. So why? And what can I do if mine are small? Even my boyfriend is obsessed with big ones, gah!
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reader, clickhere  +, writes (6 August 2010):
 having big boobs isn't always what it's cracked up to be :p
I have 32J cups which is kind of overkill on big... but who said that would be bad?
Well, most guys my age don't seem to like big breasts.
SOME like them, but they seem to be a minority.
But yeah sexually I could see bigger ones being better, but that's only for 1 pose, right? xD
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009): All I can say is, beauty lies within the eyes of the beholder. Some people like big breasts, some people like small breasts, some people like medium sized breasts. It's just the way things are. Fortunately, anyone who's worth your time will not care about your breast size. Someone that deserves you will unconditionally love you for who you are and what you look like no matter what. So don't worry about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2009): Ughhh!! I have big boobs and I hate them!!!! I would love to have smaller boobs... It seems to me like we always want what we can't have.... wish I could just be happy with myself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): I agree with what every one else here is saying.My girlfriend has not huge boobs but there is something.When it comes down to looks and how big you are i really dont care.My idea of beatiful women is a great personality a bunch of girls out there have a slim body and giant boobs but it seems rarely that u can find one that has a good personality.I really dont care about boob size as long as girl i am dating loves me the way i love her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): Bigger breasts aren't better if you're someone who suits smaller breasts i.e. born with smaller breasts, it's proportionate etc.
Men's mags, porn and all that shit is unfair to small breasts and they usually use big boobs- cause since they're bigger they grab attention more so = 'better' advertising and = more money.
If your bf likes big boobs and not yours then don't suffer being with him
Find a guy who likes small boobs
I'm sick of all this stupid, unfair shit about small boobs not being as good and all guys like big rararar
I have A cups and I love them and so does my boyfriend!
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reader, darc  +, writes (28 November 2009):
 i'm asian and it's typical to have small breasts and in fact mine is so small that the palm of my hand is just enough to cover it. i used to be worried about that very much because of peer pressure. i'm athletic so it's an advantage having smaller boobs but then my ex bf used to tease me about having small breasts but he loathes women with huge breasts. i d k but most men i dated and most male friends told me they prefer smaller breasts rather than fake ones. "more than a handful is a waste" that's my english friend told me.
maybe your bf simply likes looking at 'em but i think he loves you just as you are.
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reader, Kristena  +, writes (28 November 2009):
I know where you are coming from I'm 32 but have always been skinny and small boned. I sure didn't get blessed in the boob department but I got a booty I guess to make up for it. I think these days guys are so obbssessed with fake breast, it's almost a trend to have fake boobs. It's all over in our society now that it seems more normal to have breast implants than a girl that doesn't have them. I'm a 32B. Never really bothered me. Once in a while I would wish that I had a little more to fill some clothes out. I never really even thought about getting a boob job until recently. My boyfriend doesn't help make me feel any better about it either. Last month I was thinking about getting some work done on my teeth and it was going to be about $4,000. My boyfriend made a smart ass comment of saying Wow for that price you can get a boob job!! I told him Hmmm...I didnt know I wanted a boob job haha. So, the truth came out that he seems to think I could use a boob job. So since then I have felt alittle insecure about the size of my breast. I told him he can pay for them if he wants them..I'm not wasting my money on them!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): I find that well-proportioned women with bigger busts that stand out are voluptuous.
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reader, DLover  +, writes (28 November 2009):
big breast are not better.... I prefer a woman who has good proportions over a woman with big breast.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): Guys like breasts because it is something women have that they don't. Breasts are also something they don't get to see often because they are always covered up, so when you wear a bathing suit or you are more exposed than normal, they LOOK because they are more visually-oriented.
http://www.breastoptions.com/bigbreasts.html
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (28 November 2009):
 Well, my vote here is that larger simply does not matter. In fact, my preference is for small to medium size for one reason: Usually more pronounced nipples. While not the most important thing, I enjoy sucking nipples that become hard and erect when aroused. In my experience, the biggest breasts typically do not have very pronounced nipples. For what it's worth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): Original poster here...
I just read this:
http://www.dnaindia.com/scitech/report_women-with-big-breasts-are-smarter-survey_1310551
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): Please do not define yourself by your breast size. There are many facets to you , and you need to develop all of them to include personality, intelligence, sense of humor. Have you ever met a gorgeous guy with nothing to say? They become boring quickly. I was big chested in high school and was mortified, because I was made fun of by the boys, I was just devastated. It took years for me to feel comfortable in my own body. In regards to the media , so many of these women that are thin with large breasts have fake boobs. And they cover the womens flaws, Stars like Kim Kardashian, Holly Barry, Jessica Simpson, were all flat and now have big breasts. They surgically had thier skin cut and put artificial objects in thier bodies. I think if a women has a masectomy it is a great way for her to regain her feminity , other than that, I do not respect women that mutiliate themsselves because of thier vanity. Lastly., life is not better because of big boobs, I have them and can attest to it. All of us women need to support one another and teach our daughters, that we are much more than our breast size. We are muti faceted people.
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reader, tamashck +, writes (27 November 2009):
 As a bloke i can say that personally its not a case of "the bigger, the better".
NICE boobs, as in the shape etc, are a bonus. But size? Nope doesnt do anything for me. And in all honesty even nice boobs should be (and are in my case) one of the last things you look for in a woman.
Many guys are shallow, thats just how it is - but so are many women....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): I have smaller breasts, and Im not insecure about them. However (I am bisexual) I prefer women with larger breasts. Actually, I prefer more "plump" girls with curves. The breast aren't the most important, they just happen to often be larger on those girls. I like something to grab basically, it feels nice.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (27 November 2009):
 Askmen.com... you have to remember that ANYONE can write an online blog. Just because it´s on the internet does NOT mean it´s true! It´s not the Bible, or Encyclopedia Britannica... it´s Askmen.com.
The Internet is a GREAT research tool, when used with discretion, but a lot of things you read on the Internet (and in the newspaper, too) are baloney. Askmen.com looks like baloney to me!
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (27 November 2009):
Who the hell would wanna date the man who wrote that?
Either it´s satire, or the guy is kind of a jerk.
If someone truly loves you, they won´t try to change you. they´ll accept you as you are. There´s nothing inherently undesirable about a small chest. Some men prefer small ones, some men prefer big ones, and some men don´t care.
You COULD have implant surgery, but I don´t think you should do it just to please your boyfriend. If YOU want it because it will make YOU happier with your appearance, then it´s your decision to make. I don´t think you should, though. If your boyfriend is trying to coerce you into it, you should tell him to go marry Dolly Parton (I think she´s already married though). He sounds shallow and controlling.
I can´t wait to be back to my ideal weight because it means having a small chest again. Not flat, but small. I play the guitar, so I would like to have a small chest.
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reader, Accountable +, writes (27 November 2009):
 Did you look at the second page of that article? Clearly breast size doesn't matter that much, its just a pretence around their friends, because people do tend to conform. Also there were plenty of men in the comments section saying they loved small breasts.. I don't think its an opinion you can generalise to all men. Its just down to personal preference, like how some women might prefer green eyes, some women might prefer blue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): Not all of us guys are so caught up in boob size. And we certainly don't all look to askmen.com for advice. It would never occur to me to try to talk my woman into getting breast implants. If I wanted her bigger then I would have dated someone else in the first place. Pretty faces are not any more pleasurable for sex than less attractive ones, are they? And yet they are a very big deal when it comes to sexual attractions. Same with all kinds of other things. The female shape is visually judged for its primitive fertility indicators. Breasts, like butts and thighs and waists, is one of the things that signal things like fat storage and youth and hormonal balance. Why are taller men sexy? Why are wealthier or higher status men sexier? How does this stuff affect sexual pleasure? It's the same kinds of stuff. Life isn't always very fair for either gender.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): I know pinktopaz, but he starts off saying "mosquito bites" are lesser than big ones. It's like by themselves, they're not attractive, you need to be in a relationship with the woman for them to be so, whereas big ones are attractive whether she's your girlfriend or just a passer-by.And I know I'm a bit sensitive, but if you see in every male oriented publication you see skinny women with huge boobs. I just feel inadequate.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (27 November 2009):
I don't exactly have an answer for you...and I don't think anyone really will. But if you read the second page of that article you gave us the link to, it says that guys don't really care about size. They seem to care more when they are around their guy friends. As a woman, I'm actually not offended by that article whatsoever.
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