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*oviesBrknHeart
writes:Ok.. so I want to know why we people have to play a game before giving into love n how to play... Why does it have to be difficult and confusing to just be like "Hey I like u very much and would like it if we stick with eachother and develop , mature, and explore one another for however long it takes"... I would like to know how to play the game and how to win love before my ovaries shrivel up and turn to dust.. I am open to any advice and stories about how others got there...so HeLP!! Reply to this Question
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (28 December 2009):
 Your best strategy here is to be yourself. Love develops over time, through trust and emotional connections, communication and intimacy.
The "game" is the parts you described, knowing, maturing and learning about each other.
Any other version of "the game" is the reason why you're worried about not meeting Mr. Wonderful, and your ovaries shriveling up.
Try working on your checklist of things you are looking for in a man. Character issues. Things that you want to see in him. Mind you no one's perfect and he's going to have some kind of checklist in his head too.
Then there's the compromise issues. You two are going to have certain qualities that attract and repel and so some of those things have to be ironed out.
In the whole we all pick mates based on different criteria.
However, if you want to just join the animal kingdom you can choose brute strength and find a stud and call it quits. No game there.
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reader, LoviesBrknHeart +, writes (27 December 2009):
LoviesBrknHeart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoops I meant the 2nd answer..
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reader, LoviesBrknHeart +, writes (27 December 2009):
LoviesBrknHeart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe first answer was awesome... I appreciate it.. thanks ... looking forward to more advice... :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): hey..broke up with my x recently and I was wondering the same thing..If I found someone with the same core values as I , I would stick with the relationship through anything.
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