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writes:Hey, so I had a bf ~5 years when I was 17. We went out for just over a year and then broke up-we have hardly spoken since. I thought I had got over him and in fact I hadn't thought about him for a number of years. However, just recently I've started thinking about him. I've started feeling like I'm not over him and I feel very sad about the rship-it was pretty turbulent and the breakup was very messy which was my fault. I wish that I could spk to him again and tell him how sorry I am about the way I behaved.I don't understand what has suddenly triggered these old emotions? Has anyone else experienced this? I haven't seen my ex or anything. I do also currently have a bf-we've been together for 4 years and the rship is rly good. I am worried that my feelings for my ex will affect my current rship. Has anyone got any advice as to what has caused this/what I should do etc?Any advice will be much appreciated :)xx
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reader, mrvhappy +, writes (27 October 2010):
I have a similar experience. But mine dates back over 20 yrs with my 1st love. Our break up wasnt turbulent, but we were both very hurt. It took me a long time to get over her.
I have not had any contact with her in that time. Over the yrs I have had these strange thoughts/feelings about her..even when I have been in different parts of the world & been in other relationships!
She recently tracked me down via Friends Reutd & Facebk as "..she was just telling someone about the fun times that we had in the store that we worked in..." For some reason I was thinking about her at the time.(strange that we were both thinking about each other at the same time!!)
Anyway we have spoken & met up. The love and affection is still there on both sides..but she is married & there are lots of things for us to talk about...(not I dont wanna have an affair with her)
I suggest that you contact him and try to put yr mind at rest or things will play on yr mind.
Good luck
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