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anonymous
writes:I haven't talked to my bf since Sunday night. We've been going out for 1 year 8 months and lately we've been getting into little arguements that usually get resolved. My bf got mad the other day because he thought I was lying to him, or rather "BSing" him. Let me explain..he works in the travel industry and always wants to travel places with me, however i have strict parents and am not really allowed to go and stay overnight with him. He has asked me before, maybe a few months ago, if he thought i would be allowed to travel if my friend and her bf came with us (as a group) and after asking my parents they said no. On Sunday morning we were talking and he asked me if he thought i'd be allowed to go travel with his cousin (who i really like) and her bf...i answered "maybe, i don't know." He asked me why my parents would let me travel with them but not my friend, when it's the same situation. I said that maybe they would consider it and i was being optimistic bc i would like to go travel with them. He got really upset because he said that he thinks that i choose when i want to go somewhere and that my parents would say yes if it was somewhere i really wanted to go. Basically he thinks that i've been lying to him or BSing him bc i pick and choose what i want and i could convince my parents if i really truly wanted to go. I said it was untrue..and we really didn't speak the rest of the day. I didn't bring up the conversatio all day and he got angry at night saying that he's the only one who communicates and i'll just sit there silent for hours and not say anything and completely forget about the fight. I am silent usually because i never know what to say, but this pissed him off further. I don't know what to think about this. He's been a bit annoying lately and he's always asking questions and i don't even know if its worth it anymore. I love him, but honestly i haven't talked to him in a couple of days and even though i think about him all the time, i'm not to upset about not speaking to him. I dont want to be the first to call or text and i wont. Can someone please offer any kind of advice? Thanks so much for listening
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reader, xLamentedxAmourx +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Why would someone wait this long to answer this question?
Anyway, I do have some advice for you.
Just wait until does call/ text you and ask him to talk to your parents. Then he can find out for himself that they would not let you go with him. Worst thing that could happen is your parents say yes, even then, now you can go with him on a trip. My girlfriend and I have those awkward, nothing to say but still want to be on the phone silences too. Best way to get over that is to try and talk about something random. Your relationship is going through a rough time. Do not give up hope. Do not expect him to view your views the same you view them. After all, he is a guy, and we all know guys think differently. He is being an asshole right now, and fears you do not want to go with him. Reassure him with what I said, just have him find out for himself.
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