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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been in a serious relationship with this man for 6.5 years now. We finally moved in together this last May. He told me last Christmas he wanted to try living together for atleast 6 months before we take the next step (getting engaged). However, he was previously married and burned beyond recognition during the divorse. Yes, he is gun shy.My question here is..... Do you think he will ever marry me or is what I have now, all I will ever have? Life doesn't wait, but am I supposed to? All of our friends who haven't been together nearly a third of the time we have, are all married already. I feel a little jealous... Please help...Sincerely..... miss jealous
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): Seriously...No he is not going to marry you. You have been together 6.5 years that is enough time to get over the divorce. Give me a break. That is an excuse. He has all the luxury of being married except the committment so why should he want to get married.
I have been in a relationship for 8 years. Got you beat. We have been living together for about 5 years. He always had an excuse why we couldn't get married until finally one day I decided that was enough. I was cooking, cleaning, washing his clothes, ironing just like if we were married. I stopped doing it all. I was ending the relationship because we were going no where. That is when he snapped and wanted to get married. Now it's to late for me. I do not want to get married. You get to a point that enough is enough. I am over 40 and it's time to think of me. I don't know how old you are but you will eventually get to that point and you are going to feel like you wasted all that time waiting for someone to respect you and love you enough to make you his wife. Your first mistake was moving in with him. Now he is in no rush to marry you..
Do what you feel in your heart is right. No matter how much advise you get and opinions, you have to do what you think is right for you.
Good Luck!
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reader, gmapeaches +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Does this man know that the marriage thing is important to you? because if he knows and still doesn't want to, then you need to rethink things.. life doesn't wait.. no body knows whats around the corner.. but if you love him you need to give him a chance to be what you want him to be. and if he knows how much it means to you and is still not interested.. you don't really want to be with someone who doesnt'want to be with you.. maybe he is just scared and its something that can be talked out. Or a compromise can be reached.. the one thing i am totally sure of.. is it is him that needs to give you advice.. he needs to be the once answering that question.. and if his answer is.. you should wait because he loves you more than anything and he is worth the wait.. you will know.. good luck
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