A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I don't know how to explain my issue without making myself look naive and immature. Well I keep worrying about the growing number of people who are so selfish in relationships. I see many people cheating left and right, having a lack in character and doing things that are definitely unfair to their unsuspecting partners. My worry is that, keeping aside all the reasons why some people may be doing this, I feel that it's all a facade or mirage that we have of a meaningful relationship. I often wonder why aren't there many people who have the thinking I do. I'm afraid my ideals and thoughts are going to lead me into a very dissatisfied life because a lot of people seem to be at peace with it. Women who 'adjust' and 'sacrifice' seem to be proud of it, while many women take alternate pleasure in status, jewellery and shopping. A majority of the people live under the false impression that their ethnic group is superior to the rest and so their partner found in arranged is undoubtable. However many a times, that's far from reality. People live a fake life, acting all perfect family and posting stuf on FB. A number of people cheat very casually and feel no remorse. Things were so much better earlier i guess. When people found happiness in reality and not made up show off an so strived to achieve things in real. Why am I being so pessimistic and obsessed about how people are? It angers me when too many people are ignorant. is this part of a quarter life crisis? Will going to a psychologist help?
View related questions:
immature Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Serpico  +, writes (10 August 2016):
Solution - put 100% of your time and energy into making yourself the best person you can. Bored? Learn another language. Gossiping? Take a class in mathematics.
Do that, and trust me you wont have the energy to worry about "how people are." That and you'll be amazed at how good your own life gets with all of your new effort at improving it.
A
female
reader, answerfromtheheart +, writes (7 June 2016):
 You may be maturing faster than your years and an understanding of how things are for majority of people makes you sad. You don't have to be sad. Many people settle, many people afraid to leave a person who is wrong for them because they are too comfortable or are afraid to hurt them, so many people stay in unhappy relationships and end up cheating.Keep observing life and relationships around you. It will teach you what you should want out of a partner you will look for. I think you are on the right track.Going to see a psychologist is never a bad idea, because it's a professional who can help you sort out your feelings and help you figure yourself out. Keeping a journal helped me when I was your age. I analyzed everything in writing. Many years later I really enjoy reading my thoughts and interpretations of life around me.
...............................
|
