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writes:I'm looking for some sexual advice cupids, from both men and women if possible.I am a 29 year old woman and I've had six sexual partners, but I've always had the same problem - I don't really like the feeling of sexual intercourse. However, this isn't for the reasons many women usually state. I'm sorry in advance if this is going to be too graphic.I can actually orgasm very easily through clitoral stimulation, in fact it's often too sensitive to touch directly so I usually touch myself through underwear. I was also able to orgasm in the missionary position or me on top with my first boyfriend as he went all the way in and his pubic bone hit off my clitoris. Repeated for a while that does the trick, but partners since then have either been too big to go all the way in, or they prefer to only go in and out half way as that feels better for them. They also get bored of those two positions (or variations thereof) and want me to have my legs in the air and all kinds, and I feel nothing at all in any of those positions. It actually feels almost unpleasant, as if someone started putting their finger in and out of your ear repeatedly - you'd quickly want them to stop! And adding to the problem, I can't touch myself as the direct touch is so sensitive it's almost painful!Has anyone heard of this problem before? I feel like such a freak and like my 'requirements' for getting off are too specific and selfish to bring up. I usually get him to touch me over underwear first (which he hates as he wants to properly touch me), but regardless of whether I come or not from that (I've tried both) when we move to sex I feel nothing. That is, unless I can get my boyfriend to go for the 'all the way in' pubic bone positions but he only does that for one or two thrusts then moves back to the half way in thing. And really fast which also doesn't work for me. This has been the case with all of my partners except my first - all guys seem to prefer that and don't get a lot out if the positions I do like. But their way means they are miles away from my sweet spot and I feel like a human fleshlight! Which I know isn't their intention but it's how I feel.I'm honestly on the verge of giving up because it just leaves me frustrated knowing I could get there but only with specific positions and techniques. Why am I so mismatched with men sexually?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2014): I have had many sex partners and enjoy nothing more than giving a woman pleasure.You are not at all unusual.Keep looking and communicating and you will find the right partner.Most women get very little from thrusting but many guys just can't get it through their thick, selfish,impatient,uneducated skulls. Don't give up, find a nice guy, and show him how you like it.
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reader, Delirium  +, writes (2 December 2014):
 You are definitely not alone. All sorts of women have positions that work and positions that don't. For instance missionary doesn't work for me at all. I have a few of my own sexual dysfunctions, I have a hard time getting off without a decent amount of pressure on my pubic bone (not just the clitoris area, the actual bone slightly higher up). I'm fortunate that my partner and I are sexually compatible and he is understanding that not everything he does will work (also he is more of a slow and steady thrust than a fast thrust, so those guys do exist). I would say maybe experimenting around with toys, extended foreplay, bondage or something will help you find some extra positions or something pleasurable for you. Maybe your partner will enjoy the "adventure" and you will find something that is pleasant. There are plenty of books out there that offer advice, tips, ideas, games, and so on. By all means don't feel guilty to admit that something is painful or if you don't want to do a position. You are not a freak and any guy trying to make you feel that way is an unsatisfying dick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2014): Simple thing is all your partners are jerks - sex is for both people, and you need to be with someone who will get you off - so what if its not great for them, sex is for two people.
If anyone doesn't help you, just withdraw sex completely - then see see how willing they are to get you off rather than just one or two thrusts.
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