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writes:Hi Im 21 and found out i was pregnant on Saturday, both me and my bf were not ready for a baby and it wasn't planned but we accepted it. On Monday I miscarried, it was only 3 - 4 weeks. Since then I haven't stopped crying, im not sleeping well and I dont have appetite.Why am I feeling such a strong sense of loss if I didnt even plan to have a baby and I know I wasnt ready. My bf is trying to be supportive but it hurts like hell :'( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2011): If it is any consolation, you were not technically pregnant. It actually is not until the 4th week or so after fertilization that the egg attaches to the uterine wall,and thus, becomes a fetus as the umbilical cord and placenta then can develop. Which is why pregnancy tests are pretty much innefective until this point.
What happened to you, most likely was that the egg was not able to attach to the uterine wall properly and had to be aborted.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 November 2011):
 Because even if you weren't ready you lost your child. that's upsetting. no matter what.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2011): Losing a baby IS traumatic, doesn't matter if it was only a few weeks old.It was your baby in your body and it didn't live. So what your feeling is natural grieving.
If these feelings continue for any length of time then see a doctor, but chances are you will mourn your loss and be able to put it behind you. You won't forget, but it will be easier to cope with as time goes on. At least your boyfriend is supportive, that helps you. X
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reader, goldie22  +, writes (9 November 2011):
Oh hunny im so sorry for you. A misscarrage is a terrible thing to go through no matter how old you are or how ready. I expect your feelings are partly down to hormones. When you are pregnant your body floods with them. It will make you emotional. And Alot of first time pregnancys end in miscarrage for various reasons. You are alowed to feel this loss hunny wether you were trying for a baby or not. You need to grieve because it is the loss of something that maybe deep down you did want. Or just gor used to having?Make sure you visit your doctor or nurse if this persists they can help you. Take plenty of rest. Try and eat something. Talk to your boyfriend and let him support you through this because he probably needs you too. AnywAy good luck hun I hope you start to feel better soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2011): I went through a similar situation when I was 24. I found out I was pregnant, it wasn't planned I wasn't ready, and wasn't even sure that I wanted to have the baby because my boyfriend had broken up with me just before I found out the pregnancy. I found out that I had miscarried the baby a few days later, and like you I was crying non-stop, couldn't sleep or eat, and I grieved for a baby I hadn't planned on. I came to realise that i felt the loss, because even though it wasn't planned and I wasn't sure what I was going to do, I had no choice in the end. It may not have been planned, but you have lost something, and it will take time. Even though you weren't ready and it wasn't planned, it was part of you, and will be, you are a caring and beautiful human being, that's why it hurts. It will get better in time, and with your boyfriend's love and support you will get through this. If you are worried talk to your doctor, it helped me when I went through it. I wish you all the best and I am so sorry that you have gone through this. Good luck.
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