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30-35,
*hillANDlearn
writes:My girlfriend has recently brought up to me that the distance is tearing her apart, and she doesn't know what to do anymore. She talked about upcoming semesters and how much longer it will be until we see one another again. I asked her if she still loved and cared about me, and she said she does, as I feel the same way about her.I'm not sure what I should do at this point. I have a ticket to see her during the thanksgiving break, and I'm wondering if I should propose that we end the relationship even though I care about her. The thing is, if we end it, I dont think I'll be able to get a refund for my ticket, and if we dont end it, I feel our relationship is becoming a snowball to disaster and I'm not sure if it'll last until my trip. Any words on reassuring her about the distance? It seemed to be well; constant cellphone calls, texts, and skype convos, but now it feels like it's deteriorating with each passing day.
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reader, ChillANDlearn +, writes (23 November 2011):
ChillANDlearn is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yeah I asked her a couple more times over the span of a little over 2 weeks if she honestly wanted to see me, (since I would have canceled the flight if she didn't), and she did.So I'm still heading out there. I guess I just have to make the best of it, but I want us to enjoy each other's company like we did when we were a couple.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 November 2011):
 I think it would be best to end the relationship face to face so I guess the only time you would be able to do that is thanksgiving. Which really is not that far away now. Tell her that you can understand that it is hard and that you find it hard as well, and tell her that you will both sit down and talk at thanks giving and see what would be the best way to move forward from there.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 November 2011):
 Ok I need more info...
1. were you ever NOT LDR.. is this just a college thing or did you guys meet online?
2. is thanksgiving the first visit?
3. how far apart are you?
4. the closer to 21 you guys are the better... and while 18-21 is not a big spread there is a huge difference between the two ages...
5. how often do you see each other now?
6. do you guys trust each other, do you communicate, are you honest?
7. how long have you been together (6 months 2 years... big differences)
8. when and how do you plan to end the distance...
all of these have bearing on the health of the LDR
either way I would still go for Thanksgiving... ending it face to face is kinder.
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