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writes:I'm feeling sad and angry really easily all the time over nothing, I don't know what's happening to me, all I know is I've been feeling awful these days.I have a wonderful life, awesome friends, an amazing family and the best boyfriend I could ever ask for, so why am I sad?I get irritated over the tiniest things and I don't want to get like this. I get sad for stupid reasons and then I get people that love me worried about me because I'm crying all the time, and I'm so scared they will get tired and leave me, so I keep apologizing a thousand times, and I know that's not making the situation any better.I think I'm stressed because all of the pressure going on on me because of college stuff. I'm thinking of seeking help.What should I do? I want to be happy! I don't want to lose my friends and my boyfriend.(Sorry for my bad english, I'm from Bolivia so it's not my first language)
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (5 December 2011):
 Trust me OP, it happens to most of us. At some point of time in our lives, we have all felt this way (I know I have!!)
Sometimes one doesn't even realize why they are stressed, but there's something that plays on your mind at a subconscious level and it pulls you down. Moreover, you have to realize that every day is not the same; some days you will be cheerful and upbeat while other days you will be down in the dumps.
Don't worry OP, no one is going to think badly of you and judge you. Your friends and boyfriend will understand, and the good thing is, even you know that this is not how you normally behave and you are trying to apologize and set things right.
The people who are close to you know how you are, and they will never misunderstand you. If you were normally crabby and irritable then it was a different thing, but this is just a phase and it will get over soon.Once you settle down with college stuff, things will look up.
Also, the holiday season can get a bit depressing for some people, because there is almost some kind of pressure to be happy! Everyone around you seems so merry and cheerful that you end up feeling, "oh my God, I'm the only odd one out. There must be something wrong with me. My life is in the dumps and everyone else is having the time of their lives". Trust me, that is NOT true.
Whatever it is that is bothering you, is just a phase which will get over soon. And if you feel that its not, then do not hesitate to seek professional help. Maybe there's something deeper that might be bothering you.
All the best. Hope everything works out fine.
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reader, confusedfemale92  +, writes (5 December 2011):
I had the same thing happen to me a few years back. I felt that way for maybe 3 years...I made a post nearly identical to yours on my xanga years back. I felt to confused and selfish. I knew I didnt have anything to be really that upset about and I felt selfish for getting so upset about stupid things when people around me were dealing with alot more painful issues. Like you I was angry and irritated a lot too. I was mean to people that cared about me for absoultely no reason.. the sounds of there voices would even just irritate me. Luckily I was forced into getting help! I was put on anti-depressants and started seeing a therapist once a week. After about two months I was feeling a whole lot better! At first I hated the thought of therapy and meds and all of that but after a few sesions it was great! i Looked forward to seeing her all week. She explained to me that sometimes for no reason people get depressed because of a chemical imblances in the brain. She said sometimes it just happens for no reason... She told me in my case it might of been caused from my mom drinking so much when she was pregnant with me. Whatever it was caused from it wasn't my fault. Getting help was the best thing that ever happened to me! i couldnt imagine where I would be right now without my therapist! At first you will probably hate it but trust me in the end it will be worth it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011): It sounds like hormonal changes to me. Welcome to womenhood! I kid, it should get better and I agree its really annoying.It's natural to feel a bit 'out of sorts' as a teenager. Women also go through times like these prior to periods where you can feel quite low and completely different about life, even though life is fantastic.Of course we can't disregard deeper mental health issues. Really keep track of your feelings and if you feel it longer than a few months, please go to a Doctor as it may be more serious like depression. But hopefully it passes soon enough. Hormones are annoying but they are part of life and I know I go through times where everything is great but I dont feel happy at all, was tested and found it was just prior to my period hormones go all wacky and once i get the period I'm back to normal again. can also try some natural remedies if you want but can't guarantee they's work
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reader, bardia +, writes (5 December 2011):
 Stress does awful things to us, physically and psychologically. A little bit of it could be continued hormone changes. But you could also suffer from clinical depression. Look into some kind of counseling. And you might want to see a doctor to try medications to help. Be careful with the meds & watch yourself (have others watch you too to see if you change for the better or worse). Sometimes it takes a while to find the right combination of meds & doses. Be patient with yourself & lean on your supportive family & friends. Hang in there. This too shall pass... :)
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