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writes:My ex and I broke up the end of December 2007, after being together 9 months. Basically, he broke up with me due to insecurity, he was more into me than I was into him, and it was obviously a big problem to him.I began dating someone else the end of January. It's the complete opposite of my relationship with my ex, all passion and lust, and we get on amazingly well, we have so much fun together, and he makes me very happy.My ex and I haven't had contact since we broke up, until last week that is. I haven't missed him, apart from how confortable we were together, we had a real ease with each other which I don't have yet with my new boyfriend, obviously as we are still getting to know each other. But I don't know if we will ever have that connection.But I really feel emotionally him contacting me has thrown a spanner in the works. I felt really off with my current boyfriend for no reason. I really felt the absense of someone knowing me as well as my ex and I found myself comparing that to what I have with my current boyfriend.My ex also came to my house while I was out and spoke for quite some time with one of my family members, about how all his feelings have come back for me, how he really wants to meet up with me, he asked if I was seeing anyone (he doesn't know), he even brought up things that were irrelevant but I felt like he said them for a reason, for me.Why am I feeling so confused?? I feel like I am falling in love with my current boyfriend, but my ex really messes with my emotions and I find myself wanting to meet up with him...
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Hi
Letting the ex know in some way, that you have met someone else, might give him the gentle hint you both need badly!
The chemistry wasn't there with the ex, but is with the new guy. In time you will have a connection with the new guy AND the chemistry! Double bubble! You just need the manipulative ex to back off.
He possibly heard about the new guy somewhere and thats why he's back on the scene!
Or he's lonely and its a case of better the devil you know. Either way, it isn't all that flattering is it.
Shame to put a spanner in the works with the new guy! Somehow you need to tell the ex to move on now. To stand the best chance with new guy.
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): it sound like you're ex really wants to get back together with you and i think you should tell him about you're current bf. forget about you're ex, that was the past...think about the future!
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reader, Dannii-oxo +, writes (12 March 2008):
If you do like your new boyfriend then stay with him. He may not seem right at the moment but you have only been giong out for a short while.
Your ex did break up with you but you never know with guys! If you feel as if you have moved on then you need to try and keep your ex out of your life or maybe you could become friends and tell him you want just to stay friends.
If you don't think you have moved on then you need to think about it carefully and think which one you prefer. Your ex may say he has feelings, but remember, he is the one who broke up with you.
If this new boyfriend of yours has not done anything wrong, then you have no reason to break up with him.
This is a scary situation because you know at any time you could make the wrong decision and this is probably how you feel.
You need to consider this very carefully and what could happen with which one you choose.
I hope i helped you with your problem
Danni
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