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*oxieroxie1990
writes:So, mad question....i keep dreaming of the girl my boyfriend cheated on me with??? im nice to her in the dreams...here's my story we have been together 4 years now i have 3 kids 2 are his my eldest from a sperm donor (lol) hugs my partner took on we have changed his name everything...when i had my second we had moved into out lovely home which we own but when my son was 8 months old he stayed out all night...he was with her my gut instinct i new before he admitted it the next day...short story i left then came back n gave him another chance...he gets awkward if we see her in the street i don't i act like i dont no her n act like she's a stranger...they are child hood sweethearts the only way i can put it n always went back to her before me as well as the once wen with me...we are now very happy and had a little girl 5 months olds and engaged for 4months...very happy...but keep dreaming of her last nights was she was in my house with her twin who i am friends with in real life..and i was nice to her if anything trying to be her friend...what does that mean??? help please
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reader, foxieroxie1990 +, writes (28 April 2013):
foxieroxie1990 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for some answers...i don't feel angry anymore if not more disappointed...not felt angry in a long time about...more curious if anything..unanswered questions...but dreaming of her quite regularly lately...especially being friends with her just don't get it...just don't want anymore hate n bitterness around my family...thanks guys
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reader, Darrell Goodliffe +, writes (28 April 2013):
 I agree with the previous poster to a degree, dreams are often are irrational but that is because they are the product of the subconscious mind which isnt fettered by the rules of rationality and is less conditioned than the conscious mind, therefore the previous posted is broadly accurate in your mind, the fact that your being nice symbolises the struggle within your own mind between natural bitterness and anger at the betrayal and the desire expressed in these dreams to reconcile that anger and reach out to a more positive future, your reconciliation with that person symbolises the desire within yourself to reconcile these two conflicting feelings and move forward so I would embrace that.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (28 April 2013):
To be honest I think people need to be a bit careful about trying to spot hidden meaning in dreams. Dreams are often irrational and don’t have to relate to real life at all.
IF anything, maybe it means that you are trying to make your relationship work, and to do that you’re having to lose some of your anger. You want anger at her and your boyfriend’s betrayal, to be replaced by positive thoughts about the future you, he, and your young family have together.
When you forgive some-one, it doesn’t mean you necessarily become best friends with them. It can just mean you let go of the anger, bitterness and resentment you feel towards that person. Perhaps you are trying to find a way to forgive in this sense, and your dreams are reflecting that.
I wish you all the very best.
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