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writes:So last semester "X" knew me through my friend but we never hang out. Over the summer he would "like" and comment on my Face Book a lot AND I would comment back. It must have been quite frequent because my friend and my Ex bf noticed him. My Ex asked me who this guy was and I answered honestly that I barely knew him; he added me first on FB. He asked me why don't I deleted the guy then but I thought he didn't do anything so it'd be rude. Plus we lived in the same residence hall. When the semester started, X came by and said Hi twice, though I don't know to me or to me and my roommate because they sort of knew each other. Then 2 weeks ago, i don't even remember how, but we were drinking together. We sat on my bed because there was only 1 uncomfortable chair.My roommate AND her bf were there too. After 1 or 2 glasses X was pretty relax and lay down, rest his feet on mine.My roommate was like,"omg you're sleeping on her bed?" and X was like,"it's mine now." Out of blue my roommate bf asked why she would never drink with him, whereas X and I aren't even couples but we drank together? Oh the guy also added another, "you guys aren't dating, are u?". X answered jokingly, " Well now we are." On another occasion my roommate's bf said that we are like old couples, X would drink whatever I gave him (we shared a glass) and we would keep hitting each other back and forth playfully. There were 2 times when my roommate wasn't around and we were drinking, thing got a bit out of the "friend zone". We were tickling each other and he would try to pull me down. For several times I almost thought he did that on purpose so I would fall on him. We also "wrestled" on the bed for almost an hr and it all started when he said, "don't make me 'steal' your pants" and I challenged him saying he couldn't.But who am I to kid? I had yoga pants on, of course he was able to pull it down lol. I said it's not fair and he told me I can try to take his down....Well no no, nothing happened that night and we just laid on bed holding hands for a while afterward. Then suddenly he asked me why do we keep doing this? I asked doing what? He said we always drink,laid on bed, holding hands, etc... Then he went on saying we should stop drinking together for a while because he doesn't want one of us getting hurt, emotionally. We messaged each other a couple of times after that, even joke/flirt around, but lately I kind of feel like he is distancing himself from me. He just stopped "liking" AND commenting on my FB. When I suggested for a couple of times to grab a bite, he said he already ate. Why is he acting like this? I didn't like "like" him before but just saw him as a friend, but now I think I sort of like him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replies; I really appreciated it. I guess you guys are right.....time to be realistic
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (5 October 2012):
 This is what I think. Reckon he was either confused, or had a bit of a crush on you.But when it started going further he probably sensed that you liked him more than he liked you and maybe felt like he had been leading you on a bit too much, which explains why he is distancing himself from you now. So i would distance yourself from him, just a bit, and see what his reaction is. If he does the same, he doesn't have feeling for you. If he tries to get closer again then he probably has feelings for you.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (5 October 2012):
 No offense, but this sounds like a bunch of teenagers hanging out. Honestly, it sounds like he was out for a good time and you fell for all the "play fighting" and "drinking" as something serious. I am not sure how he could be serious about you after hanging out drunk on your bed and not spending time actively getting to know you. It sounds like he wanted to actively get to know you in the sack.
Also, you can't really rely on Facebook as an indicator of whether someone is interested in you or not. People get on Facebook because they are bored and don't have anything more important to do in real life. I'm not trying to insult anyone, I'm just being truthful.
Because he couldn't get you into bed, he's grown bored with you...which explains why he doesn't want to grab a bite to eat with you. Someone who really wanted to get to know you would make alternate plans even if "he'd already eaten".
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