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writes:So I slept with my ex again, and it just so happens it was her first night back in town after break from school. We were at a party and she invited me to her house..... After a couple of days I texted her just to see what she was up to, having not talked in a LONG time, and it just so turns out that she has a boyfriend, that she didn't tell me about till just a few days ago. Now should it be my problem if she has a boyfriend, and I slept with her, or is this her problem??
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reader, rcn +, writes (2 February 2008):
 It's her problem in this case. If you knew before hand, it would be partially your problem. Just as she would choose to cheat, you would choose to be a party to her cheating.
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (2 February 2008):
 It is her problem. She was cheating, not you. I can imagine though it must have felt strange to find this out since sleeping with an ex give special emotions, different from the ones you have with a new person. If this happened to me I think I would in a weird and highly unlogical way would have felt like if it was me who were being cheated on.
Better to not think more about it, just leave it behind you and move on to happier relations.
Best wishes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): It is HER problem as she was unfaithful to her current boyfriend and is decieving him. Nethertheless she has shown you alot about her.
1. She is willing to be unfaithful.
2. If you got back together you may not be able to trust her.
Move on hun and dont dwell on it. She has the issues not you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
She wasnt honest with you, you didnt no so no hunny its not your fault at all TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxx
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (2 February 2008):
I would say its her problem. You didnt know she had a bf and she should of volunteered that info if she was seriously commited to her bf.
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reader, onlinecounsellor_Dale +, writes (2 February 2008):
 The way I see it, it is the two people in the relationship (in this case your ex and her current boyfriend) who have a responsibility to protect and be loyal to that relationship. As a third party to the relationship, who was not even aware of its existence, how can you be responsible for the impact that your hooking up may cause? Now that you DO know your ex is involved with someone else, you may, however, want to be more cautious in the future. Also, it might be helpful to remind yourself that 'ex sex' is rarely just sex as it is commonly accompanied by a lot of water under the bridge and emotions. Your relationship with your ex presumably ended for good reason/s and by 'revisiting it' (even just with sex) you are preventing yourself from fully moving on to a more compatible situation. All the best,Dalewww.daleecounsel.com.au
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reader, Orlando  +, writes (2 February 2008):
 her problem ..she knew what she was doing. she was just after sex. . so leave her where she is. . .xx
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