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writes:Well these last few months i had been trying to get over my ex, and well it wasnt easy mainly in part because well she was my first person i ever fealt this way about and we were less then a week away from having sex then things went horribly wrong on her part. She made a bad decision that had major repercutions. She went back to her abusive ex and well got pregnant and he jumped town not even telling is parents or family where he is.Well i was 100% sure that i was over her and i even had started to have interests in someone but that didn't work out because i didn't move fast enought and she sayed yes to one of her other friends. Well these last few days for no reason feeling i thought were dead have came back, not full strenght like before but maybe 75%. And i can't get them to go away and get her out of my head. The only thing i can think of might of trigger this is well we havent talked for a month or so now becuase if i had any contact with her i would fall for her again. And i wasnt ready to try anything again. And part of the reason it may have came back is because i have noticed even tho she we dont talk she cares what i do and what i think of her. And i've heard this before but it seems like now that i have had nothing to do with her it like she cares more now then she did when she knew she could have me.And well i want to know is this normal for feeling to suddenly come back.And i don't know the girl i liked she knows i like her and i told her about this and she thinks after avoiding her for a little while longer i should try having a relationship with her again. Good idea or not??Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): Alright, dont go back, remember how much it hurt... Getting back makes things worse trust me mate
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (2 February 2008):
Moviefan is verified as being by the original poster of the question I have had a long time to think about it and it went away entirely i looked at her with disgust because of what she did to me. And I almost did something horrible to get back at her but i couldnt do it. Even though i hurt badly inside i couldnt do the same to her. She told me something she had never told anyone other then me. Her parents and close friends didnt know and lets just say it involved her ex doing something horrible. And it would of been a major slap in the face if i would of plasterd it on the net. But even though she caused me so much pain i couldnt push enter to post it. And even after she hurt me i never told anyone, my friends thought i shoudl have and still want me to, they can be major jerks sometimes, explaining how half of them havent had real relationship.And its like my heart now is screaming try again but my mind is telling me no because i could just be hurt all over again and ill have to deal with her having a child and it will take a lot from me. But i still cant get her out of my head. I can see both of your point of views and i dont know what is the right thing to do. U always hear that you should follow my heart, but sometimes i think u should follow logic as well.And all of my friend will give me hell for taking her back if i did, like it wont bother me but they will bring it up whenever they can for like 6 months. Its like would of done anything for her and she screwed me over and now i fear that to the point that i wonder if that will be like a wall between us know. Im going to think this over today and talk to a friend about. I cant thank you all enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
Its quite normal to have these feelings, You had a strong conection with someone so you are bound to get thoughts about her, She made a big mistake as she went back to someone who probably controlled her which is a shame as she would have been better of being with someone who actually cared I.E you, But I can understand if your partner is abusive and controlling it can get very confussing.. About you getting back with her hunny well you are going to have to think about what you really want and she is pregnant now so thats an added thing to think about love, I think you should have a good think and way up the good and bad about how this would affect you if she did come back if she left again then where would you be, These are just my thought love hope they helped a little TAKE CARE OF YOU LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): They say anything is permitted in love and in war but when it comes to manipulation and strategies to manipulate others it never works. Don't start acting, that's not romantic, that's lying and eventually everythign will fall apart. Be yourself and be with someone who accepts you the way you are and who's true to you from the beginning.You deserve to be with someone who values you. Not with women who don't know what they want like your ex. Yes it's normal that now your feelings for your ex came back. I studied in basic psychology class that when you have a failure in love you'll eventually start remembering about your last relationship for some reason. Forget about this pregnant lady who betrayed you. You'll only end up raising a child that's not yours and How can you be sure she won't betray you again and run off with her child's father?. Do not get involved with that girl. Get involved in activities appropriate to your age and meet new people.
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