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writes: Where do I even try to begin? I was with my partner for 10 years. We have two beautiful children. We had a nice car. A nice house. On New Years Day my partner announced she had been having an affair for 2 years. She wanted me out. We fought. Not physical. She phoned the police. I was charged. I lost my job. I lost the love of my life. I lost my kids. I lost everything. I'm a 33 year old man with nothing. Now in a dead end job. Staying back with my parents because I simply can't afford to live on my own. I've lost my car because I can't afford that either. And I have no idea where to go from here? Everything has been taken from me. What do I do? I mean I haven't seen my children for 4 months now. I've tried. God have I tried! I've just learnt that she is moving on with her new man and MY children. I have no idea where they are going? I've tried to have the police involved myself but they have told me I have to speak to a solicitor. I've done that and still nothing. I'm at my wits end. Even if I get beyond this. And somehow I can see my kids. Who's gonna' want a 33 year old nobody who has nothing? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thank you everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to everyone for their sound advice. It's really given me something to go on!
I read someone who wrote, "It's not about how hard you can hit, but how hard you can be hit and still get back up!"
Thank you again everyone!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (19 May 2012):
 I think you've hit rock bottom. You can only go up from now on. Don't let the past ruin your future. Let your being broke be your motivation. It's obvious that you can do much more than where you are now. Just get a grip on yourself and do it.
Chin up, man.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 May 2012):
 You have already been giving great advice, but please keep fighting for access to your children, you need to be part of there life. So keep fighting to see them and be part of there life. At the end of the day she was the one in the wrong not you, and you might not see it now, but you are far better off without her if she was cheating on you. You deserve better. Hey 33 is not that old and you have plenty of time to pick up the pieces and start again with another girl. Just concentrate on getting yourself better at the moment. Look for better work, try and save some money so you can get a car and some independence. Fight for your children, I know you have been but do not give up, you have rights.
Get yourself back out there, make new friends, go on nights out, meet new people and enjoy life as much as you can, you are a young free single man again so go out and enjoy it as much as you can.
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reader, bellflower  +, writes (19 May 2012):
I know exactly how you feel, I myself is going in the same situation (about to lose everything).
I'm trying to belive time heals...
You're not alone in your situation.
It's not much of a consort, still, be brave.
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