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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi! I need some advice about a guy I like, or am possibly in love with. I'm going to warn you, this might end up longer than expected...We're classmates, he is nice, kind, funny, smart a bit silly sometimes. There is only one problem..he seems to be a bit too fond of girls - in plural.I'm not really sure what kind of relationship we have, we've fooled around quite a few times, but I've never slept with him. It's been close a couple of times, but in the end I told him I wasn't ready. The reason for that is, I don't really know what he wants. I'm not interested in being friends with benefits or something like that. I've known him for about two and a half years, and during that time, he has never had a girlfriend. He can make out with several girls at parties and stuff like that, but it's only just that night. That is why I don't understand why he keeps coming back to me. He can text me in the middle of the night asking if he can stay over, and I always say yes. In the end I've always told him I wasn't ready for sex, even though he was. He didn't seem annoyed, a bit dissapointed maybe but not pissed or anything. So if sex is what he's after, why does he keep coming back? We seem to have a problem communicating, he can talk freely to anyone else, boy og girl, and so can I, but not when it comes to him or me. It easily gets a bit awkward, like none of us can find something to say. Another annoying thing is that we never talk about these episodes, we just don't mention them, until it happens again. Sometimes it seems like he's trying to make me jealous by showing other girls attention when he knows I'm around, or that he gets jealous when I show other guys attention.I really don't get him, or what he actually wants. He seems to only show interest when we're alone, usually when he's had a little to drink. What does he want, how do I talk to him about it, is it worth a shot?
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reader, _crystalxo  +, writes (19 May 2012):
Stop trying for him. It sounds like he's tryna get your goods because if he feels able to let you know he makes out with different girls in a single night...he knows you will always be there for him to run back to.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 May 2012):
 To be honest no I don't think it is worth a shot at all. I clearly think he sees you as a challenge, he wants to have sex with you but you are holding it from him, so he sees it as his mission to get what he wants. He is not looking for commitment, he is having to much fun fooling around with other girls all the time. He is enjoying single life, there is nothing wrong with that. He shows you more attention when you are both alone so he does not let others think he is weak, he tries to make you feel special because he can see it is only a matter of time before you give in to him and have sex with him. I think for your own sake you need to get rid of this guy.
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