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writes:Im getting married in christmas eve (my birthday) and not many of my family will be attending my dad died when i was 14 and me and some of my family arent really on speaking terms, who shall i ask to walk me down the aisle and will it be a happy day if my family arent there too share it with me? my husbund too be isnt keen on them coming as all he has seen them do is upset me but i feeel i want some one there at least too walk me down the aisle any ideas ? please help x x x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 December 2009):
That's a difficult situation to be in. I think it would be great to have some of your family there. do you have a brother you're close to (I only say that, because usually the bride is given away by a male). If you're stuck for ideas, a friend of a friend that I know got married and didn't have family there, so she was given away by a good male friend instead. Just a thought. But keep focused on your future, whatever happens. :). All the best.
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather +, writes (7 December 2009):
 Hello Miss. Well, first of all - congratulations!
Now, is there any male member of your family who you are close to at all - brother/ uncle/ cousin/ grandpa? If not, what about a good male friend on either your or your husband-to-be's side? Or even a relative of your intended who has become a friend?
Obviously, it's not an ideal situation but not having many of your family there(and ultimately, that's up to you - not just your beloved)but that needn't not make it one of the happiest days of your life.
I wish you both good luck and sincerely hope you get your problem resolved.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (7 December 2009):
 I went to a great wedding once where the bride walked herself down the aisle. She was a grown woman, her parents had died, so she decided she would give herself away. It worked, from my perspective.
You could ask your mother, if your dad is dead, in his honor, or just because she is your mother. Alternatively, one or both grandfathers.
You ask if this will be a happy day, only you can decide if it will be for yourself. If you will regret the estrangements that are keeping you from the family, wouldn't it be sensible to try to sort them out now?
Or if they are irreparable, right now, just carry on planning the wedding as if it is just as you would want.
Your alternative is not to rush it if you don't have to. From a purely personal perspective, I'd be a bit peeved if one of my friends chose to get married on Christmas Eve, as it is a family day for me and my family. It would interfere with the normal family celebrations and traditions. Just an observation. If you have a wonderful reason for getting married on that day and people don't mind the inconvenience and changing their plans to accomodate your wedding, that's not a problem then.
Congratulations on your wedding!
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