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writes:so, i have a question,my boyfriend and i have been together for 7 months now, we are long distance.he believes its normal if there is no contact between us for days, whereas i think this is wrong, and that if anything there should at least be just 1 text a day at the very least, saying something like "i love you" or "what u up 2?"who is right here? the other thing i find strange is that he says that, and only over these past few days have i been not contacting him and letting him contact me, yet he stil rings every few hours! i questioned him about it saying "do you not start to miss me or anything?" and he replied with "well yeah, but when my ex went away for a week, we hardly spoke"opinions??
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 December 2010):
 I don't think it's a matter of right or wrong, but just of habits and preferences. Some people needs constant closeness, some wants more space and it does not mean they have less feelings.
Personally I do not find anything strange in not having daily contacts. He knows you love him, you know he loves you, no point in keeping reassuring each other every day.
It is also true that this works best in more solid, long standing relationship. Maybe you still feel a bit insecure about the place you have in his heart and want to be reminded that he is thinking of you.
You can tell him, you can work out a compromise. You can explain him that for you it's a great joy and comfort hearing from him every day, and you would like him to make more of an effort to keep in touch, in change, you'll make the effort not to overreact and not to be paranoid if occasionally he does not !
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): Your both right. Its nice to hear from the person you love no matter how near or far they are. Daily texts are nice. But speaking every few days may be better for the relationship. Gives you chance to miss each other. Gives you something to talk about.. What you've been doing, how works been.. Etc. Dont let something like this worry you. Men are hopeless ;-)
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