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writes:WHAT SHOULD I SETTLE FOR, TREATMENT OR FEELINGS?I have to choose between two guys,there is one i love most and another who treats me like a QUEEN. Guy1 treats me well he gives me everything but i just dont feel for him that much but i am afraid to leave him because i wont get anyone who would treat me like he does, while i am so attracted to Guy2, he is the guy i think about all day and night long but when we met 4 months ago he told me he Had a girlfriend, and we never discussed her after, we dated but i ended it because i did'n like dating a guy with a girlfriend,but it has been 3 months now fighting my feelings for him but failling and he still wants me back he says he loves me. WHAT SHOULD I DO? SETTLE FOR TREATMENT OR FEELINGS? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): Guy2 will break your heart Sweetie he is a cheater and no amount of your love will change this, you are setting yourself up for a fall.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question I thank everyone who took time to answer me. well i'v decided to give my boyfriend a chance to be with someone who would trully love him coz he does'nt deserve to be given false hope coz our relationship can break anytime i get anyone i deeply love. and i will try things with guy 2 if it does'nt work then i'll move on.THANX
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2007): Choose the one who treats you like a Queen as he respects you as a woman of great worth in that he doesn't have a girlfriend he is cheating on and he isn't leading you on and giving you false hope and playing with your emotions where you want to cling to him because you don't want to be rejected by him...guy 2 knows what he is doing and he is an abusive and selfish man.
Stay with guy one.
And see some counselling to address your childhood issues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2007): I'd be careful here.
There are women out there who love way too much, meaning they choose the type of man who they can obsess over and this man will deliberately deny them a good degree of love, respect, will be emotionally distant...in other words if the woman experienced abandonment, abuse as a child she sets out to find a mate who represents many of the qualities of her abuser(s) in hopes of changing the out come where Dad will finally love her, where Mom begins to meet her emotional needs, where sister accepts her...
To these types of woman, they will find a loving, reliable, good honest man to be boring-or they will have a lack of feeling for him.
So second best in this instance is actually the first and best choice.
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (11 March 2007):
 Settle for feelings. You love this guy and he says he wants you back. Has he broken up with his girlfriend? if so go for it, if not you would be back to where you were before with him. You need to tell your boyfriend its over he will probably be gutted but staying with him because he treats you well is not a good basis for a lasting and happy relationship. You would get bored with him. Follow your heart on this one.
Good luck
Aunty t
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (11 March 2007):
 You've just answered your own question... THE ONE I LOVE DEEPLY! Enough said!
Eve
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reader, cd206 +, writes (11 March 2007):
 Love will always win through over genuine admiration and feelings of friendship for a guy but be careful. The guy you say you love sounds like he could be trouble. He says he wants you back. Does that mean he's finished with his girlfriend? Never settle for being anyones second best no matter how much you feel that you love them because you can be damn sure that if he's still with his girlfriend he doesn't love you.
CD
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