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writes:Well i got asked out by this guy only thing is though that he 22 and am 16, i don't see the problem with age though i know my mum does as my ex was 21 though it was long distance which also didn't help but this guy only lives in my next town and she openly addmitted that she didn't like it. That am just worried that if things go well between us how am i going to tell her? I'm meeting him on Tuesday and was going to tell her i had been asked out by him then, and once we met again tell her his age though i don't know if this a good idea cause I'm scared she will turn around and ban me from seeing him or something though I am wanting to take things slow and if she wanted to meet him i would let her. I've done things in the past that i know makes her feel she can't trust me but i never did anything serious with my last ex though i don't know if she believes that or not. I just want to know the best way to tell her and when would be best cause i would feel bad going behind her back and i jsut want her to realise that am old enough and mature enough for this.
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reader, Pinky XxX +, writes (12 March 2008):
 i think you should patch things up with your mum before getting into a relationship if you feel everything between you and your mum are going alright at 16 the best person to have around you for support is your mum so don't ruin that...Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionam kind of havin second thoughts now cause was supposed to meet the day but he couldnt make it and i then started thinkin is it really worth gettin into more trouble with this the now and if am even ready for a new relationship cause broke up with my ex 4 months ago but i was heartbroken and dont know if am ready yet, my mum and i havent had the best relationship but it gettin slightly better that i dont know if i should risk it the now or not? am very confused in what to do
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reader, VeronicaSkye  +, writes (11 March 2008):
Does he look a lot older than you? If not, perhaps you could first tell your mum about him & all his good qualities, then have her meet him, & once she likes & respects him & sees he is not just using you for sex you could mention the age difference. However, that may be tough, cuz if she already thinks that you like older guys she might just straight-up ask him how old he is. Either way it may help to explain to her why you like him & tell her that you are smart enough not to just hop in bed with someone right away, regardless of their age. Plus women mature faster then men, so it is quite normal to be attracted to a guy who's a bit older, & anyways, even a guy your own age wouldn't be any "better" for you, or any less likely to pressure you to have sex - young guys are just as horny, if not more, & are less interested in serious relationships!
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reader, Pinky XxX +, writes (10 March 2008):
Your mum is just being protective over you they always are when it comes to boyfriends but this shouldn't stop you from being with this person if you like him. Your mum just doesn't want you to get hurt and all you have to do is prove to her that your strong enough to take on anything this guy throws at you and she should be ok with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): I know you feel, I'm 16 too and the guy I like is 27. And although I've told my mum about this guy I haven't been able to tell her how old he is.I think your mum should meet this guy before she judges him.I'm sure she's only worried about you and wants the best for you, but if you really like him she should be there for you and support you, whatever you decide to do about this.
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