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writes:Okay well im 15 and I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months. It's not a long time, i know. But its a long time for me, anywayss(: We've done a lot of "sexual" stuff, but not actual sex. He fingers me and touches my boobs and stuff and i give him hand jobs and blow jobs. Butt he wants to take it to the next level (aka. sex) haha. I'm not stupid and I know to use a condom and get on the pill. But i don't know how to have sex witout getting cought by my parents. We aren't alowd to hang out without parents being home. and i don't know if we just have to be sneaky and just do it real quick while they are outside or something or go to the park, which i would rather not do becuse in my opinion thats pretty nasty /: any advice?
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reader, pixeydust +, writes (24 April 2008):
 In my opinion you should wait....period. I am one of those "stupid" ones and I got pregnant at 15(almost 16) and I now have a son and daughter (they are now 13 and 14 and I am 30). I was in an abusive relationship. You may say that you are not stupid and granted I am sure that you aren't but condoms, pills, etc. aren't 100% effective and you could end up with a baby anyway, I don't want you to go down the same path that I did. So as they say the only safe sex is abstinance.... and that's the truth. Enjoy your childhood while you haven't, I didn't and I regret it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): yeah i got a few advices but i need to know somethings does his parents or your parents have work cuz that is probably the best time that and if u sta at his house or yours and they leave to go to the store thats a good time but the best advice i can give yous is no sex at all sex really complicates things i know this from experince so the best advice is say i think we should slow down
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Oh! well sorry. I didn't grasp that :) In that case don't worry about it right now lol things will work themselves out. When you feel more ready for it you'll think of something perfect.
gud luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni'm not saying i want to have sex now. becuase i honestly don't!i just want advice for the future.thank you(:
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Why, oh why, is it always the guy who wants to take it to the next level? Because they don't get pregnant!
Let me give you some really good advice. Guys can cum every time when they are new at this, and usually too soon. Girls don't cum easily, if at all, just by penetrative sex. Less than 25% can cum that way. So it takes a lot of skill and a HUGE comfort zone to be able to relax and enjoy yourself enough for YOU to be able to reach orgasm. SO, you are going to be running around and finding places to sneak off to so that he can have sex and you can have really bad sex. AND - It's also not fun bumping into someone in the halls at school if you have broken up, but breaking up after having sex, that's a heck of a lot harder.
Why not wait until you are older, away at University, when you have your own room and can actually have a more relaxed experience. You never get a second chance to start your sex life all over again, and you're only a virgin once - wouldn't it be nice to have a good beginning to it? Just my opinion, please don't shoot the messenger! Good luck with everything Hun.
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reader, MissKin +, writes (10 April 2008):
I don't have any real advice. it's okay being ready and everything but you shouldn't disrespect your parents because they obviously sense what you're up to and don't want you getting up to that. you need to respect that.
I think you should wait until you can make it special - this is my most valuable piece of advice. do you want it to be rushed? Sneaky? With no romance and no content cuddling afterwards? The first time is hectic and crazy enough as it is, without adding all off these other factors in such as 'not getting caught'. I don't know. it's your own decision and you've obviously already made this decision.
You deserve to have a special time, regardless of how soon you both want to have sex. not to mention you're still too young to have sex.
To be honest your only other 'non-nasty' option is to go to a hotel for a day or something. But would your parents find out? Would you be able to afford it? Is that really wat you want?
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