A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My ex boyfriend who has not treated me very well in our relationship (we have dated twice), and has started coming to parties with people from my school, and has been chatting up girls in my grade recently. I made the mistake at the last party by asking him to dance as friends, and now he still wants to talk to me and call me and asks to see me.I broke up with him because he would always call and chat to other girls and lie to me when we were dating, but it still hurts when he is chatting up these girls from my school, and telling them they look pretty. The main girl he has been talking to was my old best friends, but i (and many other girls in my grade) have drifted because she changed and started becoming a little slutty and drinks alot. She is still a friendly charming sort of girl when it comes to boys, and it hurts to see my ex and her becoming close (she seems to be close with many guys), especially when she has an unofficial boyfriend. Her and her unofficial boyfriend say they are unofficial because they both dislike the idea of commitment. I have found it hard to stop reading their comments to each other on facebook, but im trying to not let it get to me. The main reason it is difficult getting over it is because my 'best friend' doesn't really seem to care about how i feel, and i don't want to bother other friends by talking aboutthe problem, so I'm finding it hard to forget about him and move on. One of my other close friends today told me that i didnt 'stick by my morals' because when he treated me bad the first time we went out, i still took him back after that. I'm really unsure how to move on, and where to start, and just to let things be.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (8 November 2009):
 This girl is not your friend if she's flirting with your ex. Leave her, she isn't worth it.
do anything to take your mind off him.
got out with your friends, not to parties he's at though, avoid him.
don't spend to much time doing nothing, fill every moment of your day,
do some homework, go for a jog, run errands, do a puzzle, read, watch mindless tv... litteraly anything.
as for talking about it. go to your school counselor, or your parents or sometimes it helps if you write everything you want to say down on a piece of paper then get rid of it or hide it in your room.
write down all his faults and if you ever think you still have any remaining feelings for him, read it and it will probably make you angry
(this works for me in any case)
good luck
xx
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