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writes:When is a good time to bring up the topic of where a relationship is heading?I have been seeing this guy for about 1.5-2months. However he then had to move for work. We knew this from the beguining and I never intended to fall for him like I did, I just thought it'd be nice to be friends, but I have fallen for him, really hard.Before he moved, we went out on lots of dates etc and we kissed and hugged alot. He'd hold my hand and kiss me in public too.However, he has now moved and I have NO idea where we stand. I dont know what I am to him. I cant stand this feeling of not knowing. I feel so vunerable. How do I bring up the topic of what we are? And when is a good time? Im afraid that I might scare him off for being 'to serious' or something. But I need to know, because I cant go on, letting myself be emotionally vunerable to a guy when there is a chance he is getting with heaps of other girls and/or has no intention of being in a relationship with me. He told me he would visit me lots when he moved away and he has visited me once so far (he moved 2 weeks ago). So how do I bring the subject up, and what should I say? Reply to this Question
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reader, Lilly Rose  +, writes (19 May 2009):
 Well he probably needs time to settle into his new place, the best thing to do is to ask him straight out, tell him you have been having a great time with him and hope you can carry this on etc then what he comes back with, then i think from then your know if he is serious about your relationship or just saw it as bit of fun before he moved away! Its only been 2 months so your still quite fresh, but this is were it takes hard work as long distant relationship can be quite lonely if your both not wanting it 100%.....but find out first how he is feeling about you, maybe send him a message saying you miss him and see if he then makes plans to visit you or says he feels the same way!
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reader, Dreamlover  +, writes (19 May 2009):
 hey love, there is no wrong or right time. From the sounds of the way you feel about him you need a face to face chat with him to fidn out how he feels and what he invisions for the future. There is no way you can live your life waiting for someone else to let you know where you two are going.
Take the lead and find out, ask him now, you have a right to know love.
keep me posted xx
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