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writes:Hi,I know this is going to seem like a really random question but it would really help to have some ideas.I have always suffered from confidence issues and have low self esteem, though I have no reason to feel underconfident or inadequate. So my question is...where does your confidence come from? Do you think your confidence grew in time or have you always felt confident? Any ideas on how I can improve my confidence? Thanks!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 My guess is that your lack of self-esteem or confidence come from being made feel that you couldn't do anything by yourself, or then from your looking at yourself in very hard or demanding terms.
You need to believe in your own powers. I guess one way you can learn to do that is to set challenges for yourself, and then work to meet them, one by one. Gradually, you won't be able to deny to yourself that you can get things done. And that will improve your confidence, and will also help you see what you can't do. Which is another aspect of trusting in ourselves, I gues: you need to know your limitations in order to make better use of the tools you do have.
Start small, and never give in. You should see results in some time.
I wish you the best.
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reader, binhquangdao  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 your confidences is based upon your self image and how you see yourself compared to the world. You, yourself would make it better. Go to barnes and noble and there a book how to improve your self-esteem it's a good book.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): Your self esteem starts at a very young age. If a parent or sibling is over critical this can contribute to low self esteem. Obviously it happens in a kind of drip feed way.Notice the people around you and how you react to them. Is it on a Parent child level or do you see them as equals.Try to keep away from people who are overly critical, or alternatively let them know how you feel.Confidence stems from assertiveness, saying how you feel and what you want.A good way of increasing self esteem is by becoming knowledgeable in a specific field.
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reader, softballplaya +, writes (12 May 2008):
 thats a very good question
to me being confident is defined as being happy with ones self, so it can come from either always feeling this way or by making a change and being happy with that change. I had confidence issues as well until I dieted and improved myself all around. Basically to be confident you know inside that noone can break you and no matter what your happy with what you have. Confidence can grow in time, for instance if you made an improvement ya know? If you want to improve yourself your first step is to find what needs to be improved. Im not saying knit-pick yourself (this means not find every possible flaw you can, because you are meant to have some uniqueness to your image) But find something that your unhappy with and positively change it. Once you start to change and become happy with what you changed then you will be steps closer to a more confident you!
take care && good luck
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