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writes:Where do you met people in their 30's??I have had a enough of internet dating it hasn't worked me and just getting fed up and losing faith that there is a mr right for everyone.I'm 31, have a good job quite good looking but I just cant seem to met anyone nice or honest, are there any blokes like this left?Ive tryed doing new things ie college but nothing, im not looking for ever lasting love, i just want some male company that might go somewhere, sorry for moaningcb x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): Hi again, just reread this and saw you said you have already tried college. In that case, it could be a whole melange of hindering factors if you are getting your self out there.
Try speed dating or a new wine tasting event thing they hold in london for singletons.
Also dont forget to keep treating yourself beauty wise. I love my beauty salon cos I walk in plain Jane and walk out Sexy Sarah! London is a very competitive marketplace, for housing, jobs and men too! It will make you feel better about yourself and then you will feel more attractive in return.
Also question your wardrobe- is it flattering? I know that alot of fashion current in london often means women dont dress up as much- dirty looking jeans, uncombed hair and scruffy/scuffed footwear is common in London.
I find I get loads more male attention when I dress more neatly and femininely. Experiment with skirts, dresses, tailored outfits; different textured fabrics; colours and especially make-up. Lip-gloss tends to be all the range, but I think true women are confident enough to wear lipstick and men find it attractive.
As my mother always says- "You cant catch flies with lime, catch flies with honey!"
So Good Luck and be prepared to be swatting some flies!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): I'm a londoner too and find that meeting decent blokes in London is very hard. Tried the bars/clubs thing but men are either high or drunk so Im not into that too much.
Totally agreee about the dating sites, the amount of perverts or psychos on those things is unbelievable.
I think that part of what makes peole attracted is when someone really likes and loves themseleves and self believe. So a person can appear more attractive when they do a sport or have a particular hobby they enjoy. I think its best to get yourself out there, join a gym, play a sport, join an evening class or start a hobby (maybe restarting one from childhood).
Even if you dont meet anyone directly from that, you should meet new people, make new friends and wider your social circle.
Once that happens you should get more invites to more places- increasing your chances of meeting someone. Or you could also throw more social events, prefebly at home where genuine conversation is more likey. You never know someone may bring a friend (more likey if you invite mainly single folk) who takes your fancy!!
Good Luck.
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reader, kenny +, writes (1 July 2007):
 You don't have to apologise for moaning, everyone is entitled to it from time to time. Don't despair, there are plenty of good honest guys out there, i should know i am one of them lol. Im your age, had a couple of relationships that diden't work out and at the moment just enjoying the single life. I think the worst thing is when you are desperate to meet someone, guy/girls can sence this a mile off. Potentially we meet our perfect partners when we are not even looking for them. Take some time out, go out, enjoy life and you will meet a guy out of the blue when you least expect it.
Please don't hesitate to mail me if you need further advice, all the best x
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reader, cockneybabe +, writes (1 July 2007):
cockneybabe is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you for your post
I go out quite a lot and gave up meeting nice blokes in bars,pubs years ago they are always drunk, and ive kissed a few frogs more to go i think lol
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (1 July 2007):
 I've never been to Britain, so I cannot help you as to location :-). In your post, you don't mentioning going to bars, but, all the same, let me give you this piece of advice: if you want significant company, it's unlikely you'll find it in bars or places where people go for fun.
And then, to find your prince charming, you'll need to kiss a lot of frogs :-).
Don't give up; you'll find someone.
Keep your spirits up.
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