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writes:Me and my ex broke up and 3 weeks later she had another bf. The other day I was at the club and she was there with her bf. I noticed she spent no time with him at all...he was stood on the sidelines like a wallflower with his friend. She was dancing and having a good time... She then made a point of tapping me on the shoulder and saying hey etc hope ur having a good night...I ended the convo quite quickly. Then as the night went on her bf was still the wallflower and everytime I changed floor in the club she would appear...could be be chance, be weird tho. She the. Made out with her bf right in front of me and he disappeared on his own with out his mate or gf etc. On the way home we stopped off a burger place and she was in there sat at a table with her best mate both looking...sad/bored. Me and my mates and one of the girls she was with were chatting any having fun etc and then we left the burger place. Stood out side waiting for a cab. As we walked out my ex did too, walked behind us, and as I turned round she gave me a dirty look and walked off :SBasically since the break up I have not contacted her or have any reaction to what's gone on etcBit confused (Vote me up)!!!P.s. She told someone she really misses me
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 April 2011):
You're being played like a violin, is what's happening.
A few years ago, I fancied a girl. She teased me, made me run around - I got nothing at all but a broken heart. So I backed away, and after a while found another girlfriend. The first girl then tried everything to get me, and it became clear that she was just an attention seeker.
This girl is an attention seeker, pure and simple. She doesn't want you specifically, what she wants is your attention. Don't give her it. Just continue to move on from her.
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reader, Dylan6264 +, writes (13 April 2011):
Dylan6264 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe ended things, but kept asking me to make the decisions!
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 Same thing happened to me with a girl i got dumped by.
This girl apparently wanted to be sure that i was miserable and missing her. If i wasn't, she would try to make me so.
Don't read too much into it. If the relationship ended, it ended for a reason and the odds of you ever getting back together are small. I would just try to avoid her and ignore her.
The chick i was with... She dumped me.. I stayed away from her for four months...One night my buddy and i decided to paint the town red, and went bar hopping. We wound up in the same bar as my ex.. I didn't notice her....We were in there for a good hour, and making quite a scene, flirting with the waitresses, being really loud, laughing and making people laugh.. My buddy spotted my ex first, and he claims that if looks could kill, i would have been pulverized.
He got me out of there quick... After that night, she went out of her way to make my life miserable. I don't know if it's because she felt like I had purposely shown her up, or what, but she started being really nasty.. Setting traps for me. She'd send me a message saying she wanted things to be cool between us, but then if i saw her in a bar and went over to say hi she would claim, in front of all her friends, that i was a psycho stalker and that i needed to leave her alone...
Then if she saw me out with another woman, she would try to embarrass me, one time coming up to me in front of a date and claiming she "knew that i enjoyed wearing her clothes, but i really needed to give her underwear and lipstick back"..
Women are, in short, quite often very crazy when it comes to ending a relationship. Some part of her is probably uncertain that breaking up with you was the right thing to do, but there's nothing you can do about it man, but move on...
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reader, macdubh712  +, writes (13 April 2011):
Yeah dude, I agree with sexlessintheuk; she was trying to get your attention. Basically it is like this, and pardon my being frank here. She was wanting to dance with you, for whatever reason, and this was evident by her trying to talk to you. However, you said you ended the conversation quick so she was pissed off. If she wasn't dancing with that dude then she's not into him. Most likely, if you desired, you could have been the one having a good time with her all night (maybe at the cost of a fight with the BF) but since you didn't respond she figured making out with him in a noticeable manner would get your attention. She was unsuccessful all night, hence the dirty look.
Not sure what you want with her, if you want something, go see her, now, don't sleep on it. You need to communicate with her regarding your feelings. If you feel that you two could give it another go then do it. Don't waste any time on this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): she is either trying to make you jealous, and provoke a reaction. or she actually misses you and realises she made a mistake breaking up with you. but from what youve written i think shes trying to get a reaction from you. her bf is nothing but a rebound, and shes got him on the side so you can see it. she just wants to make you jealous. dont give her the reaction. ignore her completely.
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