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writes:I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We’ve had our ups and downs which involved him cheating and me finding out, but we worked things out. Things have been going well until he suddenly began to distance himself from me. The communication began sliding down. I’ll call him, he’s busy and all that without even seeing for about 2-3 months, even when I needed help, just wanted to see his reaction, he failed me. All these happened for 2-3 months. After, he began calling me, of cause I didn’t want to see him but we finally met and he broke down, crying that he knows he had failed me, I should pray to God to forgive him for me and I should, that I’m the only woman that has stood by him and loved him. I forgave him after a while but still didn’t find answer as to why he could distance himself for that long without any reasonable reason to someone he claimed he loved. His reply to that was Sorry and it would never happen again.Though things were going much better than ever, I decided to see if I could find answers through his face book in which I suspected a particular lady that they could be more than friends. She is an actress though not popular and they’ve been friends for so longSo I opened an account with a different name and set the profile picture with my boyfriend and I and before 5 mins, that particular lady and her friend had asked me for a friend request. She then changed her pic to one which she and my bf had taken at an event, also during that period when he distanced himself and acting strange, also added new pics of just him. Under one of them she wrote “Me and my baby”. Other people made comments such as “cute couple” and all that love words. Of cause I was crushed, and then called my bf immediately, he didn’t pick up. Next day, he called me and started yelling at me, that "I disrespected him, by putting the pic without his permission, called me all names and told me “it was over” to leave him alone, I've killed all the feelings he had for me, he loved me so much and im doing all these. All these he did through the phone. I sent him messages, was that why he treated me the way he did during that period, and why he would be so mad to that extent just because of a pic except he had something with the lady which he denied?Guys, how would you react to your lady if she does something like this? Would you be angry or sorry? Where did I go wrong in this situation?Ladies, what would you do in this situation?
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reader, fwddgs  +, writes (19 March 2009):
Truth be told? I would have been just as annoyed. I made it clear that I regretted what had happened and didn't want to talk about it because it would hurt me and yet you still went snooping. Guys and their privacy is a very weird thing. We're possessive creatures who like to try and keep things how we like them and if that means covering things up for the sake of preserving the peace then we do it. I don't know if you can salvage this relationship or not. It does sound like he's really over-reacting, wait a few days for him to calm down and then try talking to him. Either he has remembered why he went on a break in the first place or he will go back to you. I'm afraid this one's down to him now. I'm sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): what an ass he was cheating on u most defenitly if the women put my baby and i or w/e under the pic its so obviouse and u kno u can always write her and ask how long they have been together and if he ever mentioned that u two were together he got mad because u busted him. and now his new g/f is mad at him because he was with u in ur pic and she knew he was two timeing her. he wasnt mad because u put a pic of him on the internet with out asking he was mad because u got him in trouble with her u need to call him every name in the book and boot his ass to the curb or thats wut i would do but u should end it and leav him alone. hope i was some sort of eye opener i wish the best of luck with this and wut ever u decide to do.
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