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*lo402
writes:I'm 16, I have never had a boyfriend or never had anyone fancy me. I'm popular, outgoing and loving but no one wants to be with me. It's not that I'm not preety and I'm not fat, just ordinary, people say I look like Dani Harmer, along with the thick curly hair. Since I was about 14 I have felt insecure about this. Especially now going into 6th form, with most going into serious relationships. I feel especilly insecure that I've started going to bed early to self harm and cry myself to sleep. My best friend is the complete opersite and has boys hanging from her, I don't blame her she is amazingly beautiful and lovely. Maybe I'm over reacting or just depressed but please tell me why I can't find my Romeo or tell me how I can find him. Give me tips please I'm desperate. Alo x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2010): You think you got it rough?
Try being in the same situation and being a guy. Only it's not 16 years old. Its 27 years old.
27 years. No sex. No attention from anyone. No hugs. No kisses.
I haven't lost faith in humanity, or the world, but I won't deny that it is extraordinarily painful.
I have never self-harmed... the way I see it, I have enough problems with my self-esteem without taking on physical injury as well.
And you're a girl, you will at some point find a guy willing to fuck you. If you have a vagina, eventually some guy will put his penis in it.
But when you're a guy, you don't have the luxury of dealing with a sex whose standards are that simple. No you have to sit there and work at it, essentially using charm and vocab to get the same result or enter into a relationship.
No one will buy a guy drinks at a bar. No one will simply sleep with a guy because he has the sexual organ required.
No, no. Women have it far easier in that respect.
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (9 October 2010):
 Confidence. The thing you need that attracts boys. Stop self harming. I know its a serious problem and it will make you distance from your peers. I urge you to stop self harming. The scars will never leave, stop before you ruin yoour body forever.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (9 October 2010):
 You admit to doing self harm. This can be a serious psychological problem. Is some of you behaviour showing through with people that is making them keep their distance. You need to address this before you can attach your self to your Romeo. People can read things in others that arent their true personality. Is it really all about your friends dating or is something else in your life upsetting you. Can you talk to someone older about your fears and feelings. Trust me, if you look like Dani Harmer then you won't have any trouble in your future meeting Romeo. Good Luck
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