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writes: dear cupid, when you are drunk can you really not control what you are doing or do you show you true feelings? an example is that my friend says he wouldn't kiss a girl but when he was drunk he did kiss her and also they were really close to each other like holding hands and he was feeling her and his excuse to me was 'i was drunk though'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006): I had an Uncle that became more subdued and fun to be around when drunk. When he was sober...I couldn't stand him and wished I was bigger so I could knock him on his ass. Alcholoics...it was very sad to discover as I grew to an age; to understand what alcohol does to someone.
My birth Mom said that when he was younger; he was like the man I remembered from my youth-the drunk one.
Tragic.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (30 December 2006):
 People do strange things. Some do them while sober and others while drunk. I think alcohol just makes people less inhibited. It's a poor excuse for bad choices. It actually makes the drunk person appear more pathetic.
However it happens, and the truth is this, alcohol affects our judgement. It also depends on the amount of alcohol or more exactly how drunk a person is. There are times when someone is about five minutes from passing out. In that state of drunkeness, they are not even in the same time zone. For instance, many people can't even remember, the following morning, what happened the night before. They are still responsiable for what they do, afterall, they did it. Alcohol soes though, explain certain acts of stupidity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006): I remember hearing the message in Grade 6 about staying away from alcohol and don't drive drunk and that one
Police officer stood up to add that you don't want to be an idiot, it doesn't make you popular when you do something bad or stupid does it? Don't drink because it makes you look and act like an idiot and may hurt you and others.
Also my parents taught me well.
Drinking does impair judgement, and does slow your response brain to motor functions.
Knowing this...people still decide to go out and get smashed and still end up in situations that they may regret when sober.
People also will rely on drinking as "courage" or to "excuse" as Dr. Pete said to make any offenses or transgressions appear lesser.
ACTIONS speak louder than words.
He wanted to, he did it. Regardless drunk or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006): People like to use being drunk as an excuse or justification. "Oh i cheated on the person I 'love' but it wasn't my fault as I was drunk and don't really remember" etc.
In the eyes of the law, (in most countries at least) you are guilty if you commit a crime whilst being drunk. e.g. If you drink drive, you are commiting a crime. I agree with the law in this case and would say being drunk is absoluetely no justifiable excuse for any behaviour.
With that said though, people of your age do tend to make alot of mistakes with alcohol. Alcohol is the route of many, many problems, relationship breakups, infidelity, unwanted pregnancy, violence. It really can be a terrible thing that unfortunately people have to experience for themselves.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (30 December 2006):
 their are a few views on this matter.
some say that past a certain point we cannot control the effects of alcohol.
on the other hand me myself i have been drunk to a point that no i havent quite forgotten but i did all the things i did = obviously me i dont do things unless i wanted them to happen, or i dont mention something i dont want to speak about.. i was drunk the other nite first time in years i re read txts i sent i ddnt realise the full extent of what was said but i remeber doing it and boy did i blush as to what i had written and what was sent.. my idea is that people use alcohol as an excuse, if i did something i ddnt mean to i wouldnt blame alcohol because i ment to tho some people feel the need to hide their true wants as they may get dissaprovel from others an so on alcohol is a relaxent and a depressant = lets us do things we want , but can have a negativity on our mood hope this helps xxx
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reader, kellyO +, writes (30 December 2006):
 Hi dear,
They are different reactions for different people and different levels of being drunk. while some people claim they dont know what they do and have no memory,others say they find it easier to respond to challenges when tipsy and have the strength to act on their desires when drunk. Also, when an individual get's drunk they can easier be manupulated to act in ways they wouldnt have imagined if sober.
In the case of your friend i am more likely to think that he was in the case of him showing his true feelings. I was drunk "though" seem like a perfect cover. i would watch out if i were you.
Goodluck and happy holidays
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