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writes: Well yesterday me and my boyfriend had sex and it was all going well until we finished and noticed the condom had split. We are always safe and have never done anything unprotected but this suddenly happened and i dont know what to do about it were both stuck...someone please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2007): First of all, its great that you are using protective sex and that you are not taking any chances. I suggest you to use condoms that you can trust.
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reader, Contagisblondnes  +, writes (16 February 2007):
Go ahead and find yourself EC (emergency contraception) if you aren't on some form of medicinal birth control. It's easily available in the United States regardless of your age if you go to a Planned Parenthood. However, expect to spend about $75. If you don't have the money, however, they can still help you - they're good people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2007): the same thing happend to me yesterday! :( but it has also happend before! why does the condom split ? can any 1 help me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your help and it was of great use to me x x x
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (31 December 2006):
 Pica refering to other agony aunt's opinions as 'guff' is a little insulting. Please be a little more pleasant! What Malyce has said is correct, at this point you need to confide in your Mum. failing that get to the GP ASAP and get some emergency contraception...in either the pill from or having a IUD inserted.
Well done for using barrier methods of conmtraception to protect you, but as with all contraception nothing is failsafe bar abstinence!
Good luck.
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reader, pica +, writes (31 December 2006):
There is not a 50/50 chance you are pregnant. The risk of pregnancy depends on a lot of things. Your best bet is to go to an emergency doctor as soon as possible. You can even go to a casualty/A&E (in the UK anyway) and ask for emergency contraception. How effective this is depends on your cycle and how long since the condom split. Doctors will not (repeat, will not) inform your parents. Suggest you google for emergnecy contraception services in your area.
I think you are best to talk to professionals and get the truth rather than the guff that's being doled out here. You are underage, you must know that, but at least you've had the sense to take precautions. I'm hoping you're 15 rather than 13.
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reader, xNatx +, writes (30 December 2006):
 Hi hunni, dont worry its not the end of the world (although it may seem like it) I am guessing you are not taking the pill so there is a 50/50 chance you could be pregnant. Well it's good that you were taking precautions because if you feel you want to tell one of or both of your parents or a friend or other relative then at least you can say you were being safe. I will tell you that a couple of months ago i found out i was pregnant due to a split condom but dont think that just because it happened to me it will happen to you. The scariest part of finding out that you are or could be pregnant is telling your parents, they may be angry at first but trust me they will calm down but like i said they will respect you more because you were using a condom. Have you thought about the morning after pill? or wouldnt you want to get rid of a baby even at a young age? Thats another thing you need to talk to your boyfriend and see how he feels about it and what he would want to happen if it turned out you were pregnant, but remember it is your choice and your choice ONLY if you keep it or not as it is your body even if your boyfriend doesnt want to, you never no he might even come round to the idea mine did! One other thing, if your boyfriend had sexual partners before you two got together it may be sensible to get a test done to check for any STI's. Well i hope this helps and remember you will have to tell your parents sooner or later so its best to do it as soon as possible, it gives them more time to get used to the idea. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006): Condoms can break when they do not fit properly (he may need a bigger size) and by the amount of "activity". Also factor in the occasional "bad one" and expiration date.
Where is Mom and Dad? That you are on here...I take it you are making a decision that Mom and/or Dad have taught and cautioned you to not put yourself into and now, don't feel like you should go to them.
I am a mother of four children. I have two teen daughters. I love them both so much that I hope that they never feel the need to turn to strangers on the Internet for advice, counsel, and guidance.
That is my responsibility, I do it better than a stranger, I know my children, and I love them and want them to be happy.
This is the time you need to turn to your parents. Sweetie you shouldn't be engaging in sex.
If my daughter decided to go against my wishes and our Family standards, I would still like to know so I can still teach and still do my part. I would ask her what she wants to do; that if sex is something she still will do regardless if I would like her to or not.
She has her own agency and I cannot always be there. THIS IS HELLA SCARY on my side of life.
Go to your parents and work this out together.
That is the BEST and RIGHT thing to do.
Take Care Sweetie.
Mom will probably take you to the Doctor's for a physical and other stuff you and her will decide needs to be done.
*hugs*
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (30 December 2006):
 are you on any other contraception ? if not would be a good idea to have a back up plan ie = rod , pill , and so on. go to youre doctor as soon as possible dont wait a few days go tomorrow he should be able to tell you if u can use the day after pill which acts like an emergencie but u shouldnt rely on it as it should only be used as a emergencie. if not he will be able to tell you youre options.. sorry if this hasnt helped xx
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