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writes:I went out with this guy and things went really well, we got along great and talked for hours about literally everything. He was so sweet and makes me feel like a schoolgirl, he kept holding me close and we kissed a lot this night!! We've met up a few times before this, but this was the time it was just us two and a properly without our friends there. The thing is, he hasn't contacted me for three days, nearly four come tomorrow. He does this normally where he'll text me or see me, then wait maybe one or two days to contact me again, I just expect it now. But it'll be four days tomorrow if he doesn't contact me again, which is longer than he's usual. I don't know what could have gone wrong, because he kept kissing me and seemed genuinely really interested. He even said he had a good time and was smiling so adorably whenever he was around me. So I don't know whether I should just save face and forget about him and accept that it didn't work out. Or what to do? I don't want to contact him, because if he's interested surely he will make the effort right, but I like him a lot so I'm at a lost. But if it's been this long, shouldn't I just move on and forget about him.... When would be the time to forget about him and accept it's not going anywhere?
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (24 February 2012):
 That time would be if he hadn't contacted you in a month.
Please, wake up and smell the coffee! Not contacting you for four days is NOTHING. Maybe he was texting/calling every two days but, there are certain minor details such as having a job to go to; family/friends to visit and spend time with; doing laundry, getting groceries and numerous other daily errands......PLUS it REALLY isn't a good idea to be in near-constant contact, you know!
There is such a thing as familiarity breeds contempt, and wearing out your welcome, and overwhelming someone. Now, I'm NOT saying YOU have done any of those negative things, only that there is a risk of them happening if you are always in each other's pockets, so to speak.
Yes, you like him, find him attractive, get on well together and he finds you the same. However, it's good to have some time apart (and you need to pursue your own activities). There is such a thing as being apart and having the pleasure of anticipating (looking forward) to the next time you'll meet.......
Just try to relax and not worry. After all, he has not given you any indication that he's lost interest, now has he? If you hear nothing for another three or four days, there's no harm in picking up the phone to say hi.....
Good luck!
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (24 February 2012):
That time would be if he hadn't contacted you in a month.
Please, wake up and smell the coffee! Not contacting you for four days is NOTHING
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (24 February 2012):
That time would be if he hadn't contacted you in a month.
Please, wake up and smell the coffee! Not contacting you for four days is NOTHING
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reader, tutu22 +, writes (24 February 2012):
Hi there. As I was reading your story I was thinking to myself is this the same guy we are talking about? LOL I am also dating a guy like this. He will text me and never call. Even when he is stuck in traffic he won't call!! He stopped texting me for 4 days then just sent a shor text. He has not asked me out for this weekends and usually by this time he would have. I am very confused as well. I really don't have advise since I amlost too but just wanted to say that I am in the same situation so you are not the only one. I am thinking that maybe they have another girl that they are dating or maybe a few other girls. Maybe they have a serious girlfriend?? who knows. We don't need to be treated this way though..we deserve someone that will give us the attention and love we deserve. So basically I think we should jsut forget about them..but i know it is hard. I mean he just textedme sometthing and I am sitting here thinking about what I should write back palms sweaty and hoping that I write the right thing. I mean that is how much I like him. He has thrown me off balance whereas there are guys that text me and I don't like and I don't eventhink twice what to write back..I somtimes don't even write anything or take soooo long to answer. With this guy it's not like that.I get so nervous. So with that being said I think that these emotions we are feeling maybe are even unhealthy. Maybe we should just let them go and hope a decent nice guy will come into our lives that will treat us with respect and show more affection than these losers.
Hang in there hun xx
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