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reader, daletom  +, writes (8 August 2008):
I'll take a chance and guess that there's a genuine question under there, even though it sounds a little flippant on the surface. And, appropriately, it has received some flippant answers - but also some good answers!
Being unattached at 26 can feel devastating! Especially if you have never been attached. You probably have friends who have been married, and divorced, two or three times already. Think about that - they have to face a level of pain, guilt, and rejection that you have avoided.
I have to disagree with the folks who tell you to "love yourself". That line of thinking can easily lead to arrogance, narcissism, and conceit. But I WOULD urge you to "know yourself"! Know what you are - and are not. What you can do - and what you can't do. What you believe - and what you reject. In the process, you will probably learn to accept some things, and perhaps change some other things.
I'll tell you what worked for me. I confided some of my frustrations and desires to a much older friend - my parents' age, but not my parents - who knew me fairly well. A few months later, this friend suggested that I should make the acquaintance of a young lady about my age. It wasn't a set-up for a blind date or anything like that. But our mutual friend, being older and wiser and acquainted with both of us, perceived compatible traits. Geography intervened and this lady and I mailed back and forth for three months - real letters, on real paper, sometimes with friendship cards or some trinket gift. I finally got to meet her face-to-face, 35 years ago this week. Next week we will have been married (to each other!) for 34 years.
I hope that someday you can relate a similar story!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): Well, did you find true love last night just before or around 8pm?
Please do tell. If not I may have to throw out my crystal ball.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (4 August 2008):
 When you love you, and are happy in your own skin, and are self sufficiant. (of course you're then at risk of never wanting to settle down lol) Otherwise you will make bad judgements, settle for just anyone and never have true fullfilling love.
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): It is a metaphysical truth that whatever one resists, persists. When you learn to be content with what you have, accept what you have and focus on making the most of that and being thankful for that, then it will come. If you think about how desperate you are, you'll just keep attracting situations to make you desperate.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (4 August 2008):
 Try, see, and never give up.
You'll "find" it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): Obviously we can't tell you the future,but I can tell you
that you will have found the one when that person loves you
and has all the qualities you're looking for in that person
and you can be emotionally and physically comfortable and
and be yourself around them.That's some of the qualities of true love.You will find it one day.They're out there looking for you too.Wish you the best.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008):
When you are true to yourself! although you could try McDonald's as uncle phil suggests, who knows he could be right, but you won't find it sat in front of a tv.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 August 2008):
Uncle Phill is wrong, it will be a bit closer to 8pm.
Hahaha.
Everyone will find love at some point in their lives. You just have to keep meeting people and learning about the world and it's people.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): Next Wednesday, 7:48pm outside McDonalds.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (4 August 2008):
 You will not "find" true love - you will have to nurture it.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (3 August 2008):
 we cant tell you, you just have to wait
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 August 2008):
 I can't tell you when or if. I can tell you to keep trying.
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