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writes: I’ve come out a long-term relationship about two months ago, since then ive had a fantastic social life. My female friend that ive known for ages (who i dont hang around with) said if I ever wanted to go for a drink with her and a few mates we could. so I took her up on the offer, as friends...Got to know her for about a week and we decided to go to a club that ive never been to before. Because I know her mum, i was able to stay on the sofa for that night. when we got out of the cab, I must of said something and she put her arm around me and said “awww” and then before i new it i was holding hands with her. anywayz we went into a pub, one of her friends made a comment that are we seeing each other, niether of us denied it and the comment was dismissed.We ended up at the club and all night we were both dancing with each other and holding hands etc. at one point she was dancing so erotic for me! We walked home chatting and hugging each other. got to her house and sat on the sofa watching TV, we lied down and started hugging and she moved my hands down slowly down her stomach and further down to the top of her skirt, now because i know her since we both were babies and she knows how much ive been hurt from my break up i didnt want to take it any further. we snogged each other, n that was the end of the nite. She also had said about not wanting to be rebound girl and that’s another reason I didn’t take it any further because I really do like her.The following morning she came down stairs and sat next to me, i put my arm around her n she snuggled up to me under the covers. That was fine. When i was about to leave i tried to snog her again but we only like liped kissed not a full on snog. she just shrugged and hugged me. I texted her when i got home just to say id got home ok. she text me back for a while then nothing. I text her later on that night just to say have a good holiday and got no reply, now shes away for a week and im thinking about her 24/7. What should i do?
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reader, Christie +, writes (29 June 2005):
I would try and think positive, as she is on holiday it might just be that literally she has no time, signal or credit. From you you have said it sounds like she likes you. She may have been a bit gutted that you didnt want to take it further but I think you should talk to her about it and I'm sure she will understand your reasons. I would not worry too much as she may have been tired or run out of credit. There are too many reasons that arn't she has something against you for not texting bak. Just wait and see and try and talk to her, tell her how you feel. take care.
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reader, Cambelina  +, writes (29 June 2005):
The only way that you are going to be able to get to the bottom of this is to talk about it with her. It looks as though, up to this point- all you've had to go on are her actions (ie: text messages, dancefloor antics, etc). There's no way for you to really know what's going on inside her head. It does sound like she's genuinally interested in you, but perhaps is afraid of making a wrong move and ruining what was presumably, a strong friendship. Women are complicated creatures, and we run very deep- so you need to go to her in an open minded spirit of friendship and just ask her what is going on between you both. See if she wants to make it exclusive between you both since you've been more or less "acting" like a couple, why not be one? Tell her your concerns about being hurt again like you did before. Open up to her as much as she opens up to you, and explain why you didn't want to take things further when you were on the sofa that night. She will really appreciate you being a gentleman with her.Once it's all out in the open, you can stop fretting every moment about what is going on. A good solid friendship is an excellent foundation for a rich and fulfilling relationship, so let her know that you are ready to take things further with her, and that you see that you and this girl could have something amazing...Good luck! :)
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reader, becky05 +, writes (29 June 2005):
I think you should hold off texting her till she comes back her holidays. If she doesnt contact you when she gets back, give her a phone and ask if she wants to meet for a drink, if she says no, say to her "well, you can give me a phone/text sometime" if she doesnt, forget about her, nights out can often make people feel different to they do the next day, it sounds like she doesnt want anything serious at the moment
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