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writes:I go to a private coed boarding school. Teachers and students are encouraged to become close, and we will often visit each other at each other's homes to say hi and whatnot.I'm close with a lot of my teachers, but I find myself attracted to one in particular. He's my physics teacher, which is my worst subject. Last midterms I failed so I started meeting with him a lot for extra help, and by the end I got a good grade.In class, we have a lot of fun -- I tell lots of fun stories and everyone in the class really likes me, including my teacher. He lets me get away with a lot of stuff -- like turning in labs a week late, lots of extra time on tests, etc. When I walk in late to class, he's totally fine with it, and I've never gotten a late slip. Whenever he sees me, he beams -- he has a very cute, wide smile and his eyes sparkle and looks at me in the eyes for longer than other students.-He knows my standardized tests scores and keeps telling me I'm "crazy smart".-He complains about his wife a lot in class, and is very open about the mistakes he made -- they got pregnant when they were juniors in college and married because of it. He makes it known that he's not in a happy marriage.-When he gets close to me (when helping me with my work, etc.), he's sort of physically hesitant and somewhat nervous.And I must stress this: whenever he sees me, he smiles.Does he like me as more than a student?
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reader, nicole5178 +, writes (31 January 2008):
 Hi.
He sounds like he's at least good friends with you. He probably won't make a move past that, especially since he's hesitant whenever he gets close to you.... I think you should talk to him. Decide first if you want something more than a teacher-student thing with him. If you do want it, then no problem. If you don't, then tell him you get a strange vibe from him and that you're not sure what it means. Play innocent, because if you don't, you'll just make things ackward by being too blunt, and then he'll become even more hesitant around you in class.
I wouldn't read too much into him letting you off easy when you turn things in late. If a female teacher did that, would you think she had feelings for you? Try to avoid double standards....
Hope that helped you. Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): Probably, u should talk to him find out whats going on! I would be careful tho hes married even if he is not happy in his marrige its not fair on his wife or on u xx good luck n tel us wot happens
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): If you are as bright as you say you are, then you probably know you are going down a wrong path here, wondering if your married teacher likes you "that way".
It does not matter if his marriage is unhappy, happy, or did or did not start because of a pregnancy...he chose to get married to her so he loved and cared about her, and now he is dishonoring what he has with her by openly denying that he has a good marriage.
If you pursue anything other than a teacher/student relationship with this man, then that makes you a homewrecker, a direct threat to this other woman's marriage that you do not even know, so it makes it real easy to forget about her and her kids.
You are also likely to get used and very hurt, and not only that a bad reputation at school and possible expellment for both you and your teacher....
Get your head in your books, you don't want to ruin your bright future for a little fling for a teacher that you probably should just admire from a distance as a smart man that is helping you to learn something so you can make something of your life.
Take care.
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reader, Somethingeasy +, writes (27 January 2008):
 It's possible. I would be going over a students house. You sound more like a good friend of the teacher more than anything else.If you really are a bright person, well then that's why you can get away with stuff normal people can't. Myself being a pretty bright person back in H.S. I would get away with just about everything. About getting physically hesitant. I'd be careful and watch myself, that sounds like the trait of someone with a nervous tick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
This guy is openly flirting with you, Telling you his sad story of why he had to marry his poor wife is crap love, If you can imagine when he has had enough of you and you move on, which you will do, He will probably be on to his next poor victim. I personaly feel very sorry for his wife as she is more than likely in the dark and thinks she has a wonderful husband and marriage. So Id stay well clear TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): Hi! I am in the same situation! (almost) lol... I have known my media teacher since 9th grade...and now I am a junior in college. We used to flirt a lot, he would always let me get away with things.. AND always smile at me. Based on your post, I think your prof. does like you. I found out that "J" liked me by just flirting.. and I came out and asked him once I was away at school.. lol.. but lately, our relationship has gotten "warmer"... isn't it a good feeling to know that you are going to have that in class everyday? lol
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