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writes: Dear Cupid,My fiance changed careers about 2 years ago. He wasn't making enough money so I had to pick up the slack. I started buying all of the groceries, household supplies, even had to pay rent for him a few times. Well, 2+ years later, he is making more money and now suddenly he is being very secretive about how much money he is making. He always says he can't afford to buy groceries and if I ask him to buy them he flies into a rage and accuses me of being a "bi***" about money. I think he is now making more money then me. I feel like he's taking advantage of me and making me buy everything and that he's not allowing me to see how much money he is making because he likes our little arrangement where I pay for everything. What do you think? Whenever I try to talk to him about how I feel, he goes into a rage. What would you suggest? I am starting to resent him, and I am not attracted to a man who sponges off people. I am also now losing my job and my finances are getting cut very thin but he is still persisting with making be buy everything. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2006): Forget that bastard! Don't let him take advantage of you! Dump all that responsibility back on him and leave him.
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reader, beenthere +, writes (20 February 2006):
yes he is taking advantage. if he really needed help to pay for things then he wouldn't have a problem letting you know how much he earns. i thought my partner was unfair expecting me to pay most of the bills, etc. because he has twice as much money coming in than i do. but he at least pays the rent, which i must admit is a big chunk out of his wages! you have to tell this man that you are struggling to afford everything and he really needs to help you out. even if he did earn less than you, that's no reason not to contribute anything at all.
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