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writes: When my boyfriend tries to finger me it really hurts. (This is the most sexual activity I've paricipated in.)The first time it was OK, but it didnt turn me on at all. And the second time it hurt. I told him to stop, which he did of course. I feel weird though because I don't know what to say to him even though we can usually talk about this kind of stuff very easily. I really wish he could take his time and just "touch" that area and work his way up to penetration instead. Also I haven't done anything in that way to him but I'd like to. Do you think he expects it, or will he want me to? If so, how do I go about it? Any advice welcome, thanx Reply to this Question
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reader, Creampuff +, writes (22 February 2006):
 Like the others have said talk to him. Tell him what u want him to do, put ur hand on the outside of his and guide him if nessisary.As for him he probably would like you to return the favor, what u actually want to do is up to and depends on how far you want to go weather you just use ur hand or go further to Fellatio. Just unbutton his pants and look at him to c if its okay, but remember he's sensitive to so be gentle im sure he will tell you how he likes it too, if not ask.Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2006): The biggest part in sex is communication. Tell him exactly what you want, and how you want it. Tell him if it hurts or it turns you on. Tell him all the sexy things that make you wet, etc, etc, etc.
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reader, harshbutfair  +, writes (20 February 2006):
 Just talk to him. He'll only learn if you tell him. Guys also tend to have a fascination with penetration that needs to be "un-learnt".
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