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writes:Hi dear cupidI am 21 studying in university and I like a girl who is a year senior. Problem is she gives me signals that she is a senior and thus can't date me. I guess that's mostly because of peer pressure and she might look awkward in front of her friends .What should I do? I might be older to her and I am not shy or nervous .Plus on a day after Valentine's, I gave her a small gift in university as we had a small carnival kind of thingy.I joked around and she laughed and enjoyed my company but she used to sneak around, not sure because of shyness or feeling awkward. I also told her I am going to get a bunch of flowers and a gift for her now and she insisted on gift as she said, she lost the rose her best friend gave. (female) (that was true) Now I plan to ask her out, take her number and get to know her more. Only thing is should I ask in front of her friends or when I find her alone? or something I should take notice about?? Is it normal how she is behaving?Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all so much for your answers, advice and helping me out. Appreciated.However, my real question was : the girl I have crush on is a senior.We both study in same university. She likes me and my company but at same time I feel due to peer pressure and looking awkward, she might not be interested in relationship however I am. What should be done?
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reader, franny1297 +, writes (16 February 2013):
 she seems nice, ask her out just the two of you, she might like you back, but she is probably scared of what her friends might think of you, ask her if she wants to hang out sometime, get to know her, get to know her friends too, because you should know aswell what kind of people she hangs round with. Good luck!! HoPe AlL gOeS WeLl!! ps- remeber that it is better to ask her out one on one because if you ask her out around her friends, chances are she will more likely say no than yes, because she will become embarresed and shy, if she does say yes, don't spread it to the world, just see how things go after a few dates and then tell your friends. NoW gOoD lUcK!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2013): Being a senior myself and having been in a similar situation she is probably just really nervous about being with you since your in university and she is in high school still. You should definatly be asking her alone. If her friends are around she will feel more pressure. It's normal for her to be feeling like this since the way public views high school girls being with university guys is so negative she might sometimes feel uncomfortable. Just show her how much you really care about her and her mixed emotions on it will go away and she will feel better about the relationship.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (16 February 2013):
I would suggest asking her when it’s just the 2 of you. It will be awkward of course, but then you are both free to have the conversation and explain your positions without the added pressure of others watching. At the end of the day, if she says yes, great. If she says no, you can both agree to move on and, if you would like, maintain the friendship that exists between you. No-one else need know about it.
I wish you all the very best.
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