When it's good, it's GOOD... When it's bad, it's AWFUL.

A female age 36-40, *sfritzy writes:

Hi! Well, I've been in my relationship for three years, and at times, it's been AWESOME. He does have some outside issues- unemployed, car was repo'd, and still lives with his parents. He's a musician, so he takes gigs as a source of income, and he also plays for my dad's church. Well, my boyfriend's been constantly having problems with me and breaking up with me by resurfacing issues that have already been resolved from as far back as when we first got together. Well, here is the issue at hand... His best friend's wedding was this past Saturday, and I'd promised to go with him. However, this was before I'd realized my church's organization meeting was the same weekend. I had a position and responsbilities to fulfill, so I NEEDED to be there. It's called our district council. I'm a pastor's daughter, and my dad is the COUNCIL VICE CHAIRMAN. My bf was born and raised in this organization, so he knows the importance of being there. Anyway, I made the tough decision of going to the council instead of the wedding. My bf broke up with me, told me I was selfish, and that I never consider his feelings. Truthfully, he's invited me to his gigs this year, but I haven't been able to attend them due to cicumstances. I live abut 40 miles away from him, and at times, my car was out of commission, he had no money, or he didn't have a way to come and get me. All of a sudden, he's forgotten about all of this and has been calling me a liar. So, I apologized for not being at the wedding with him and said I would do my best to be there for/with from now on. He dumped me, said he wanted me back, and then said from now on it's gonna be about him. He said he's made so many sacrifices for me trying to always be there for me, but I haven't done anything for him our entire relationship. I've been breaking my back trying to make him happy, but he's NEVER satisfied. He has talked about me so bad to the point where it feels like my insides are shredded. He brings up my past mistakes and hangs them over my head... He's constantly dumping me because he feels like it... I've told him about how I've been hurt in past relationships, and he said maybe I should look in the mirror because maybe I was the problem. At times, I wasn't able to go with him because I had to travel with my dad to sing or represent our church choir when he preaches somewhere. I'm at a loss of ideas. All I've ever done is be there to love, honor, and encourage him. I'm unemployed, but I've even helped him financially whenever I could. Whenever I have money, the first thing I think about is what he may need or what could put a smile on his face. I'm a hopeless romantic, so I give him cards and do things just because... I even buy him clothes because I know he's in dire need. He doesn't appreciate anything and all he does is constantly find something to complain about. I don't know what else to do. I love him dearly... When it's good, it's GOOD... When it's bad, it's AWFUL. What more can I do???

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