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writes:I have recently met a very attractive lady that I really like (and from the look of things, she is very much into me as well). The only problem is that she is 5 years older than me. I don't have a problem with the age difference because i have dated older women but I suspect that she might chicken out if she finds out about my age. So I would like to keep my age to myself and let her know me as a person first before she makes any bias conclusions. People have always commended me for my maturity and say I act 35 whereas I'm only 24. My question is, when is the right time to then tell her my age. Reply to this Question
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 I'd give it six months. But I agree with the other poster on here, don't lie about it if she asks. If she asks you could just say, "I don't really feel comfortable discussing my age, but I am legal." lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): I would not worry about it. She hasn't asked you how old you are, I bet she knows you are a little bit younger than she and she doesn't care. If age was important to her she would have asked you straight away....just wait until it comes up, or ask her what her age is, and then tell her yours.
I would not worry that she will not like you because you are 5 years younger than she is, she will like you any way in spite of it if you two get along....5 years is nothing, and it finally has become more acceptable for the woman to be older than the man she is with when it never was frowned on the other way around, how fair is that? It's not! People don't fall in love with age, they fall in love with you.
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reader, Bean317 +, writes (17 March 2008):
The advice given sounds good, only DO NOT lie about your age and then tell her how old you really are later down the road... that's a set up for failure. I would not bring up the subject, but if she does, you cannot lie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): It seems to me like you're right in saying she should learn to know you as a person first, and then tell her your age. So this is what I think you should do - wait til you know she definitely likes you, and then maybe break it to her casually. If she likes you enough, she shouldn't back out. And if she does.. Well honey, she's not worth wasting much time on, because she should love you for who you are, and the age gap isn't that big! Good luck :]
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