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writes: My boyfriend and I only dated for 2 months, and he wants me to move in with him when we will be together for 5 months. Should I or should I not? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): I have the same situation.
I met a girl on an online dating website at the start of october.
we started being a "couple" at the start of november and now at the start of december we cant stand being apart.
we talk to each other for hours - every morning and every evening without fail.
we are getting on fantastically and the only solution to the pain of saying goodbye each time we go to our seperate homes seems to be to move in together.
but at the end of the day - it feels so much like the right thing to do.
i guess you are the only person who can actually answer your own question. Just talk to your partner - be open and honest about any issues or worries you have with it and dont be affraid of changes to your life. Changes can so often be for ethe better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): Two months? It's probably too early. You are still in the "honeymoon" stage of your relationship. I am currently in a situation with a girl and we moved in after only two months of dating. It seemed great at first, but I quickly came to the realization that we moved in together way too quickly. Now I fell like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I would like to live apart again, but I'm not sure that's possible without a breakup. If you have to ask, then it's probably too early.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): Go for it!! moving in with your boyfriend can possibly be a nice experience in your life and if its not there is always something to learn =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2007): It all depends on how both of you feel about it. If you are ready to see him on a daily basis and are prepared to be annoyed by some of the things he does then by all means, go for it. I once let a guy move in after only a couple weeks of dating and we stayed together for years and even got engaged afterwards. It is a big step to some and not so big for others. Why not let him stay with you for a week to get the feel of it and make your decision from that. Do a trial period. I think that 5 months is plenty of time for moving in as long as the relationship is on stable ground. Hopefully, he will pitch in with bills and housework 50/50, too. Let him know what's expected of him beforehand to avoid future conflict.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2006): Hi there. I just recently moved in with my boyfriend after dating 7 months. It seems crazy to everyone else but to us it seemed perfect. Its been 2 weeks and so far its been more than i ever thought it would be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2005): I would say go for it, but just keep in mind whether or not you are actually ready for. It is a big step, and a little fast to some, but each person has to follow what they feel is truely right.
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reader, Blightybloke +, writes (2 May 2005):
It's too soon if you're asking the question ' Is it too soon to move in together? '.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2005): Well I would say the descision is yours really. What I would say is that you two should think it over because moving in too soon is a big step because you may start arguing over little things like someone leaving their dirty washing on the floor!Thank you! I hope it helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2005): Hey. I've always fancied myself as an agony aunt, so thought I'd try it out. If you are unsure, and don't want to move in with him, then simply tell him. If he cares for you then he should be able to wait until you are ready. Give it time, and your heart will tell you the right time. If he does love you as much as you think he does, he should wait for as long as it will take; if not, then he may not be the right guy for you. You need someone who will respect your decisions, and is willing to wait until you are ready. If he is the sort of person that will do that, then all I can say is good luck in your relationship.Best Wishes x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2005): Hi hunny.It sounds like you already know the answer deep down. If you are not sure, then waiting a bit longer would maybe be a good thing to do. Talk to your boyfriend more about it and ask him why he wants this to happen so soon. I think he may have some quite strong feelings towards you and perhaps that could be one reason for him asking you to move in so soon after starting the relationship.However it takes two to make a relationship work so you have to both be sure that this is what is right for both of you and not feel pressurised into doing it because he wants it. I hope this will help you. Take care.
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reader, Ruth +, writes (2 May 2005):
You never really know someone properly until you move in with them. You may get on brilliantly and then when you make the move you find out little things that annoy you, like the "lid off the toothpaste"!!! I don't think that there is ever really a time limit on moving in with someone, people move in together after just a few weeks and it may work and again, it may not. In other words it depends on you and if you feel it's the right thing to do, just go in with an open mind and be prepared!
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